NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
Keep it simple. Bump.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded:
Hey guys... Lorenzo asked me to start updating the Bible for now, so... if there are any posts that you recommend I put in the Bible, most of you know where to find me... so let's see some good material guys!
Reloaded: The Series... So to Speak, coming soon.
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
I'm the hired hand, and I'm available on AIM more often than Matrix, feel free to run these posts by me as well, and I'll tell Matrix about them. My AIM name is in my signature, so you can tell me.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DoneOriginally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
then tell him about that post up there it's a must read.
yayOriginally posted by whatsupwiddat:
DoneMatrix will add it ASAP.![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I suggested this to Matrix about 2 weeks back, i think the same thing as well...Originally posted by MaDsKaTeR212:
hey guys i was just looking at the old DJ Bible (http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000512.html) and i noticed the format is a lot easier to read than this is, it has less text in between and i think it would be better if the HSDJB was formatted this way too.
just a suggestion.
if the glossary was a post it would have to be constantly bumped, and it's at the very bottom so i dunno.Originally posted by whatsupwiddat:
Matrix isnt online WAY ENOUGH. But I like the new formatting. here is an idea though: how about the glossary is a post instead of being on it? Or if thats not a good idea, maybe the glossary shouldnt look like a paragraph mixed with regular and italic font strewn out randomly.![]()
Two.Six.Six.
[This message has been edited by whatsupwiddat (edited 12-07-2002).]
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.