"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The girl is going to see her BOYFRIEND?!

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Okay, well as I've posted before, I've been getting with this girl for about 4 weeks now. I've fvcked her only ONCE...yea I know WTF...but anyways...not this weekend but NEXT weekend she is going to arizona (were in Indiana) to see her so called "EX" boyfriend. Now I'm 100% planning on getting with other girls while she is gone btu I wantd to know how to handle the situation...should I talk to her about it? Or should I just let her go and see how she handles it? What do you guys think...I've never been in a situation like this before.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Double standards.
 

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She's not your girlfriend, you're not her boyfriend. You're holding double standards saying it's fine for you to do something and she isn't.
 

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nono i was thinkin about just being really nice pretending like shes not even leaving and then when she leaves i'm going to get with as many girls as possible...pretty much HOAR myself lol...then when she gets back jsut argue with her about it or some **** (hopefully she will bring it up)
 

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You have problems.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Vincent said:
You have problems.
Yeah, I agree. If you're worried that she's gonna go and sleep around with other guys, you probably shouldn't be doing the same to her...

But, if you don't really care about your relationship with this girl, I guess you might as well go for it.
 

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How do I have problems? This girl is going to go see her EX BOYFRIEND, who she is planning on having sex with plenty of times, I know this arleady. We ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE, never were. So therefore its fine if I get with other girls, now she will still get angry btu she relaly has no rigth to.
 

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Vincent said:
You have problems.
I think he and this girl both do.

they've been sharing a bed for an entire month, they might as well be in a complete relationship and she's making plans to go F her ex boyfriend while he's making plans to go F random other girls.

toddC said:
We ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE, never were.
then stop sharing a bed with her. unless the cuddling is really that good.
 

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your whole little "i'm jealous so i'm going to make her jealous" scheme wont work.
girls are good, they may not seem smart, btu she'll fvck you three ways to friday if you piss her off.
You having sex with others wont show your devotion to the relationship, infact if she comes back and hears ehr FB fvcked other girls, SHE'LL NEXT YOU.
get your game together, either get exclusive with this girl, or stop getting used.
 

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toddC said:
How do I have problems? This girl is going to go see her EX BOYFRIEND, who she is planning on having sex with plenty of times, I know this arleady. We ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE, never were. So therefore its fine if I get with other girls, now she will still get angry btu she relaly has no rigth to.
You're not exclusive, so stop being a jealous little boy.

Anyway, as it has been said, she is going to sleep with him, you are going to sleep with other girls. If you whine about what she's doing, take a look in the mirror.

You don't have the right to object. You are not her boyfriend. No complaining, no whining, you're not allowed to.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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