Okay, well as I've posted before, I've been getting with this girl for about 4 weeks now. I've fvcked her only ONCE...yea I know WTF...but anyways...not this weekend but NEXT weekend she is going to arizona (were in Indiana) to see her so called "EX" boyfriend. Now I'm 100% planning on getting with other girls while she is gone btu I wantd to know how to handle the situation...should I talk to her about it? Or should I just let her go and see how she handles it? What do you guys think...I've never been in a situation like this before.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The girl is going to see her BOYFRIEND?!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
nono i was thinkin about just being really nice pretending like shes not even leaving and then when she leaves i'm going to get with as many girls as possible...pretty much HOAR myself lol...then when she gets back jsut argue with her about it or some **** (hopefully she will bring it up)
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mr_rogers
Senior Don Juan
Yeah, I agree. If you're worried that she's gonna go and sleep around with other guys, you probably shouldn't be doing the same to her...Vincent said:You have problems.
But, if you don't really care about your relationship with this girl, I guess you might as well go for it.
How do I have problems? This girl is going to go see her EX BOYFRIEND, who she is planning on having sex with plenty of times, I know this arleady. We ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE, never were. So therefore its fine if I get with other girls, now she will still get angry btu she relaly has no rigth to.
I think he and this girl both do.Vincent said:You have problems.
they've been sharing a bed for an entire month, they might as well be in a complete relationship and she's making plans to go F her ex boyfriend while he's making plans to go F random other girls.
then stop sharing a bed with her. unless the cuddling is really that good.toddC said:We ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE, never were.
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
your whole little "i'm jealous so i'm going to make her jealous" scheme wont work.
girls are good, they may not seem smart, btu she'll fvck you three ways to friday if you piss her off.
You having sex with others wont show your devotion to the relationship, infact if she comes back and hears ehr FB fvcked other girls, SHE'LL NEXT YOU.
get your game together, either get exclusive with this girl, or stop getting used.
girls are good, they may not seem smart, btu she'll fvck you three ways to friday if you piss her off.
You having sex with others wont show your devotion to the relationship, infact if she comes back and hears ehr FB fvcked other girls, SHE'LL NEXT YOU.
get your game together, either get exclusive with this girl, or stop getting used.
You're not exclusive, so stop being a jealous little boy.toddC said:How do I have problems? This girl is going to go see her EX BOYFRIEND, who she is planning on having sex with plenty of times, I know this arleady. We ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE, never were. So therefore its fine if I get with other girls, now she will still get angry btu she relaly has no rigth to.
Anyway, as it has been said, she is going to sleep with him, you are going to sleep with other girls. If you whine about what she's doing, take a look in the mirror.
You don't have the right to object. You are not her boyfriend. No complaining, no whining, you're not allowed to.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.