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Whats the setup like where you live? Is your brother ok to stay in his room for the evening or go out if you have someone to bring back/over?

I used to share a flats with friends in my early 20's and never had an issue bringing women back after nights out when he was asleep, or if during day we'd go to my room for sex after chatting for a bit in the lounge, with them there (day bit was after we had already slept together on other occasions). Similar for them too.

Maybe older women would be a bit more funny about it as this was mainly women in their 20's.

Good outlook on not wanting to spend more than you need to to keep overheads down to build for a bigger future. Exactly what I've chosen to do in the past, takes pressure off needing to earn x amount right away to survive. Its what keeps a lot of people in jobs/careers they hate.
 

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Whats the setup like where you live? Is your brother ok to stay in his room for the evening or go out if you have someone to bring back/over?

I used to share a flats with friends in my early 20's and never had an issue bringing women back after nights out when he was asleep, or if during day we'd go to my room for sex after chatting for a bit in the lounge, with them there (day bit was after we had already slept together on other occasions). Similar for them too.

Maybe older women would be a bit more funny about it as this was mainly women in their 20's.

Good outlook on not wanting to spend more than you need to to keep overheads down to build for a bigger future. Exactly what I've chosen to do in the past, takes pressure off needing to earn x amount right away to survive. Its what keeps a lot of people in jobs/careers they hate.
It’s a basement suite so my brother doesn’t even have a room just a bed at the far end and I have a room at the other. But we’ve talked about it before and he’s not comfortable with me having girls over and honestly bros before hos is a thing I actually respect not just say.

And yeah money is primary for me. Keep the costs down and stuff the excess into my investments is my way
 
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It’s a basement suite so my brother doesn’t even have a room just a bed at the far end and I have a room at the other. But we’ve talked about it before and he’s not comfortable with me having girls over and honestly bros before hos is a thing I actually respect not just say.

And yeah money is primary for me. Keep the costs down and stuff the excess into my investments is my way
Could you look at getting a bigger place together? Assuming here yiu don't want to spend even more renting alone, or putting your brother in difficult place.

Other options is motel like others say, but that could be more hassle, cost more than getting bigger place.
 

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Could you look at getting a bigger place together? Assuming here yiu don't want to spend even more renting alone, or putting your brother in difficult place.

Other options is motel like others say, but that could be more hassle, cost more than getting bigger place.
Once I hit a target I have for my finances I’ll look into getting a starter home for both of us. He can live downstairs kind of thing. But right now, I doubt I could get another place to rent for less than we currently pay it’s $750 Canadian Dollars and it includes everything. Most one bedroom basements cost $850 NOT including anything so we totally lucked out and our landlord is amazing. He’s Lebanese and the most kind and pure individual. A bit of a player too before he got his current wife. I remember going to the laundry room o e day and this university bimbo was in her underwear taking some clothes out of the dryer. That was a few years ago.

Anyhow it is what it is I suspect. I appreciate all the brainstorming from you guys. I do plan to get a bigger place but that all depends on how long this commodity bull market takes to heat up. I’m long on oil and uranium with a few solar and silver. One of my natural gas positions is up 79% currently and uranium popped off recently but I was already in it.

So yeah, slow and steady
 

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A motel/hotel may not work since they might say they are not a "hotel/motel" type of girl and can seem like something that would trigger an ASD. If you don't have your own place it's a turn-off. That's unless you find someone who loves you and doesn't care. You probably have an old/used car too and come across like you are broke. You are missing out allot of opportunity for investments for what? You start losing your libido as you get older and are wasting your prime years over nickels and dimes. You'll regret this as you get older even when your investments pay off later. Money comes and goes but you can't get back your youth once it starts going.

(The above two posts are not intended to encourage fornication but is meant as a general principle, and can be applied to any youthful activity, such as travelling, etc...)
 
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The biggest obstacle for many who hang around on this site is spending too much time here talking, bashing women and remaining in a bitter and cynical viewpoint which is a pvssy repellant. So hanging here after you got the message is not good. One must take the information provided, update their rules boundaries and standards and get back to living.

The exception is guys like "glassguy" who comes here occasionally to post his exploits, and to give guys real world feedback that works.
 

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So recently it’s becoming more and more obvious that I’ve missed many opportunities to have sex because I can’t host. I live in a basement suite with my brother and logistics are a nightmare. I would say 75-90% of potential lays (where the girl has already agreed to have sex) fall through simply because I can’t host and she doesn’t have her own place.

Before people tell me to get my own place, I’m currently paying $375 for rent, internet and everything else included. It’s too good a deal to skip out on
Get a room at a motel. I've banged many a chick that way. And yes, almost all of them will go for it.
 

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A motel/hotel may not work since they might say they are not a "hotel/motel" type of girl and can seem like something that would trigger an ASD. If you don't have your own place it's a turn-off. That's unless you find someone who loves you and doesn't care. You probably have an old/used car too and come across like you are broke. You are missing out allot of opportunity for investments for what? You start losing your libido as you get older and are wasting your prime years over nickels and dimes. You'll regret this as you get older even when your investments pay off later. Money comes and goes but you can't get back your youth once it starts going.

(The above two posts are not intended to encourage fornication but is meant as a general principle, and can be applied to any youthful activity, such as travelling, etc...)
I disagree. I have a way higher sex drive than I did in my 20’s and it’s all because I eat right and workout.
 

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Motels/hotels are rarely practical. When you tell a (relatively new) chick “I booked a room for us,” they are usually put off by you being presumptuous (even if she wants to sleep with you).

And if you wait until things get hot and heavy first, then try to book one, then she’s put off that you want her $&@&@ so badly that you’re willing to dump $100 on the spot.

Hotels are best for when you are traveling. You already have a room, and then you go out to try to pull. She feels like you didn’t get a room just for her; you already had it.
 

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Motels/hotels are rarely practical. When you tell a (relatively new) chick “I booked a room for us,” they are usually put off by you being presumptuous (even if she wants to sleep with you).

And if you wait until things get hot and heavy first, then try to book one, then she’s put off that you want her $&@&@ so badly that you’re willing to dump $100 on the spot.

Hotels are best for when you are traveling. You already have a room, and then you go out to try to pull. She feels like you didn’t get a room just for her; you already had it.
Agreed. I’m not booking a hotel. End of.
 

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So recently it’s becoming more and more obvious that I’ve missed many opportunities to have sex because I can’t host. I live in a basement suite with my brother and logistics are a nightmare. I would say 75-90% of potential lays (where the girl has already agreed to have sex) fall through simply because I can’t host and she doesn’t have her own place.

Before people tell me to get my own place, I’m currently paying $375 for rent, internet and everything else included. It’s too good a deal to skip out on

$375? Are you a college student or something? Get a better job or something man. Not trying to hate on you but damn that is being cheap unless you just don't have a choice. But even uber drivers can afford much better.

Sounds like you need to forget about women and focus on improving your income.
 

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$375? Are you a college student or something? Get a better job or something man. Not trying to hate on you but damn that is being cheap unless you just don't have a choice. But even uber drivers can afford much better.

Sounds like you need to forget about women and focus on improving your income.
I’ll do what I want.
 

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I’ll do what I want.
It's not just all about game and logistics. Your smv is low based on your living situation. Sharing a basement suite with your brother. That is something that should really be worked on imo unless you are just hardcore saving all your money towards a bigger financial plan ofcourse.

In your current situation, i would book a cheap airnb before the dates that you think will end in sex. I have been in your situation and it really sucks for logistics.

Edit. I just saw you refuse to pay for a motel because that would indirectly be paying for sex.

Im probably coming off as a hater or even snobby here but you are 33 years old and seriously think this cheaply? Bro you have a serious hang up with money it seems. Then i saw another post of you proclaiming you only have ever paid for a cup of tea in the last 3 years of dating. That just screams poverty and stinginess to me.

Like i said originally, banging women should be the least of your worries right now. That's what's wrong with this forum. Too many guys putting the cart before the horse.
 
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It's not just all about game and logistics. Your smv is low based on your living situation. Sharing a basement suite with your brother. That is something that should really be worked on imo unless you are just hardcore saving all your money towards a bigger financial plan ofcourse.

In your current situation, i would book a cheap airnb before the dates that you think will end in sex. I have been in your situation and it really sucks for logistics.

Edit. I just saw you refuse to pay for a motel because that would indirectly be paying for sex.

Im probably coming off as a hater or even snobby here but you are 33 years old and seriously think this cheaply? Bro you have a serious hang up with money it seems. Then i saw another post of you proclaiming you only have ever paid for a cup of tea in the last 3 years of dating. That just screams poverty and stinginess to me.

Like i said originally, banging women should be the least of your worries right now. That's what's wrong with this forum. Too many guys putting the cart before the horse.
I’ve said over and over that I am putting all my money into investing. I refuse to be celibate while I work on my financial goals so here we are. It’s not always one or the other.

And you snobs need to stop hating on me just because I’m poor. I didn’t ask to be born into poverty so fvck right off with the hate.
 

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I’ve said over and over that I am putting all my money into investing. I refuse to be celibate while I work on my financial goals so here we are. It’s not always one or the other.

And you snobs need to stop hating on me just because I’m poor. I didn’t ask to be born into poverty so fvck right off with the hate.
Ah okay. Well that is smart then. Like i said, i have been there before.
 

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Ah okay. Well that is smart then. Like i said, i have been there before.
Ok. Then you know how hard it can be when people kick you while you’re down. I come here to get advice on my game not judgement or life advice from you guys. Suffice to say my life is more than what I’ve said on here so if everyone could stop assuming they know everything that would be great.
 

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Ok. Then you know how hard it can be when people kick you while you’re down. I come here to get advice on my game not judgement or life advice from you guys. Suffice to say my life is more than what I’ve said on here so if everyone could stop assuming they know everything that would be great.
Yeah I get it, comes to priorities. I've been similar to before. You clearly accept its not ideal for banging and may miss out on the odd lay, but your goal for solid future is more important than women at all costs. looking to make it work as best you can/optimize getting laid, without compromising the more important things. which you clearly can do as still getting laid aren't you?
 

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OP I'm in the same boat, if you have a car you could do it there or at the park during the night when nobody is around.

You gotta be a little creative, maybe even go camping
 

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OP I'm in the same boat, if you have a car you could do it there or at the park during the night when nobody is around.

You gotta be a little creative, maybe even go camping
are women ok with doing it in the car? I get if they're horny, really into you they'd potentially do it anywhere, but probably a large section would be put off by it, particularly when a bit older and weather isn;t great. I suppose for some could be a thrill, doing it almost in public...
 
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