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The Biggest Obstacle To Getting Laid For Me

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So recently it’s becoming more and more obvious that I’ve missed many opportunities to have sex because I can’t host. I live in a basement suite with my brother and logistics are a nightmare. I would say 75-90% of potential lays (where the girl has already agreed to have sex) fall through simply because I can’t host and she doesn’t have her own place.

Before people tell me to get my own place, I’m currently paying $375 for rent, internet and everything else included. It’s too good a deal to skip out on
 

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Ooof my mode one brother, that is a bit of an obstacle......

But never is all lost. Where there is a problem there is a solution.

Push the meet near to her place? In fact where I can I try do this as I prefer to just be able to pick up and leave
and find sanctuary back at mine.

Yeah we always need logistics sorted out. obviously you know that. Hers or yours.

has hers being a problem?
 

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Ooof my mode one brother, that is a bit of an obstacle......

But never is all lost. Where there is a problem there is a solution.

Push the meet near to her place? In fact where I can I try do this as I prefer to just be able to pick up and leave
and find sanctuary back at mine.

Yeah we always need logistics sorted out. obviously you know that. Hers or yours.

has hers being a problem?
My fwb has her own place, but most new women don’t. I just met a 34 year old who is down to be my fwb but she doesn’t. She says she may have it to herself this month but not currently.

Like I said, most girls don’t and I even suspect that boy having your own place is a count against you. Although my brother (who defies all pua common sense) doesn’t seem to have that problem
 

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So recently it’s becoming more and more obvious that I’ve missed many opportunities to have sex because I can’t host. I live in a basement suite with my brother and logistics are a nightmare. I would say 75-90% of potential lays (where the girl has already agreed to have sex) fall through simply because I can’t host and she doesn’t have her own place.

Before people tell me to get my own place, I’m currently paying $375 for rent, internet and everything else included. It’s too good a deal to skip out on
motel? hotel? inside the car? in a park in the middle of night? in a alley?

I tell you this I go for a motel or her place, the others place was tale some guys I know did, and hell there some guys who was even more trash then this, but one rule is I never bring woman where I live, and only some did know where I did live, easier that way
 

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who defies all pua common sense
I'm glad you are awake to this (I did better before I found the "manosphere" because I didn't think about it. I suspect that is where your bro is, bro)

but most new women don’t.
yeah glad I don't experience that anymore. Being living abroad last ten years, so have my own place and other foreigners usually do. always a place.

I digress for a second, I remember years ago I was between two countries, had to go back to mine for two months, my dear old mum said stay here. Ok but my desires went out and brought a chick back.....i shouldn't have.....she knew and even protested. I shouldn't have. I did. I get your logistics.

It's an issue.
I just met a 34 year old who is down to be my fwb but she doesn’t.
Yeah that's annoying as fvck my man. Sort it out. before you know it you'll be forty. Damn I am frustrated for you.
 

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motel? hotel? inside the car? in a park in the middle of night? in a alley?

I tell you this I go for a motel or her place, the others place was tale some guys I know did, and hell there some guys who was even more trash then this, but one rule is I never bring woman where I live, and only some did know where I did live, easier that way
Yeah I do try my car and their place. Those are my primary choices but it seems it turns some women off. I think it just is something I have to accept
 

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Like I said, most girls don’t and I even suspect that boy having your own place is a count against you.
Never suspect anything like that.

You drive home the narrative.

You are living with your brother? drive home the narrative about how cool that is. bit up yourself. you are loyal as fck. You and your bro are fun.

you get it? she buys your narrative. never doubt anything.
 

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Before people tell me to get my own place, I’m currently paying $375 for rent, internet and everything else included. It’s too good a deal to skip out on
That's like saying that you want a gourmet dinner but the McDonalds happy meal is too good of a deal to skip out on. You have to decide what's more important to you, getting laid or having cheap rent.
 

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Never suspect anything like that.

You drive home the narrative.

You are living with your brother? drive home the narrative about how cool that is. bit up yourself. you are loyal as fck. You and your bro are fun.

you get it? she buys your narrative. never doubt anything.
Cool, thanks man.
 

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You could always get the motel room... Look at it like paying for a nice dinner at a restaurant instead of cooking your own meal. I bet this would only need to be done on first meetings. The comfort of having been with you might make future logistics easier. The first time I met my FWB, she kicked her cousin out for the night. The majority of the times since, her cousin has been there to hear everything.
 

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You are 33 years old Man...You need to have a conversation with your housemates about having some privacy like an adult.

Might mean a little more scheduling on your part but people understand, a man has his needs. Work out a system . Hell even in college the old "sock on a doorknob" was a universal signal.

 
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You could always get the motel room... Look at it like paying for a nice dinner at a restaurant instead of cooking your own meal. I bet this would only need to be done on first meetings. The comfort of having been with you might make future logistics easier. The first time I met my FWB, she kicked her cousin out for the night. The majority of the times since, her cousin has been there to hear everything.
I don’t pay for sex. Directly or indirectly
 

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I don't know how the mode one boys are too far and between.

Brother don't worry about this, you are going to be KING.
Thank you brother. I’m not too worried just today I felt the frustration. That girl I met online is down to host when she can tho so that’s good. Also got my 22 year old Asian still waiting for me to fvck her again. It’s difficult with her as she works all day and I rarely am in the mood late at night but I did fvck her in my car earlier this year
 

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I don’t pay for sex. Directly or indirectly
the moment you go out with a girl and even if she pays for her bill you are paying indirectly, same for driving for meetings, you are paying, not much, plus peace of mind more then likely cover all you spend on a motel anyway
 

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Yes, logistics are often a key issue that prevents sex from happening.
 

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Before people tell me to get my own place, I’m currently paying $375 for rent, internet and everything else included. It’s too good a deal to skip out on
Let's face it, most pros come with a con. Almost everything you do comes at a sacrifice of something else. Like there are only so many hours in a day, and you have to prioritize what you focus that time on, what you want to invest in. In your case, you may have to give up some cheap lays if you want the cheap rent. Seems like a reasonable tradeoff.
 

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the moment you go out with a girl and even if she pays for her bill you are paying indirectly, same for driving for meetings, you are paying, not much, plus peace of mind more then likely cover all you spend on a motel anyway
You really gonna nickel and dime me? Ok, I can play that game.

Most I've paid for in the last 3 years is a tea for myself at a date I had the other day. Sure, I spend gas traveling to my fwb's house but she often pays me way more than it costs, and sometimes makes me breakfast too. So, aside from the tea and gas to meet women when I'm fvcking them right at their home without going on a first "date", I'd say I'm not paying anything substantial. Certainly less than you are paying I'm quite certain.
 
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