You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It's not surprising that this song came out in 1999 and was popular in 1999-2001. The oldest Millennials were about to finish high school. This sort of captured the feelings of the early Millennials who were in high school in the 1999-2001 era. Then we wonder why Millennials turned out so messed up.
This is why I prefer instrumental music over songs.lol this song came out in the late 90’s when I was in Middle School.
It’s a pretty catchy song, they just need to tweak the lyrics a little bit.
I would say that the music of 1988-1992 contained less beta lyrics and feel than the music of 1998-2002.88-92 was not much better. Alot of masculine rock 80-85 but it went south quick lol
They're from my home city! Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada!Funnily enough this guy's own dad was a well-known hard rocker
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Winnipeg has a nice music tradition (BTO, Guess Who, Neil Young). I've heard the women are nice there too with a nice dose of Scandinavian genesThey're from my home city! Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada!
They're known for being super hot, actually. A chick with a great rack was checking me out and giving me IOIs a while back too; but I'm currently poor, so I didn't make a move.Winnipeg has a nice music tradition (BTO, Guess Who, Neil Young). I've heard the women are nice there too with a nice dose of Scandinavian genes
Nice. Where I live in the US (Arizona) there are a lot of transplants from the upper midwest (many from Minnesota) who are Scandinavian descended, and I've heard the same about Thunder Bay, so I figured that might be the case there in Winnipeg too.They're known for being super hot, actually. A chick with a great rack was checking me out and giving me IOIs a while back too; but I'm currently poor, so I didn't make a move.Gotta get the finances in order first, before I think of it.
Done.It’s a pretty catchy song, they just need to tweak the lyrics a little bit.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bro, "Every rose has its thorn" is a f*cking masterpiece. That guitar solo cuts through "like a knife".I would say that the music of 1988-1992 contained less beta lyrics and feel than the music of 1998-2002.
1988-1992 had too many power ballads, which are too beta. 1988 had Cinderella's "Dont Know What You Got" and Poison's "Every Rose Has Its Thorn". "Every Rose" was written about some stripper and Bret Michaels found out some stripper was cheating on him. In fairness to the stripper, the incident happened in 1986 when Poison was touring to support their first record and they weren't super big and super rich yet. However, a band with a recording contract with a major label in 1986 needs abundance mentality. I could argue that the song was written to appeal to beta males though.
1989 did have Dr. Feelgood (written about a drug dealer, not beta) from Motley Crue.
All the Seattle grunge bands that got popular in 1991-1992 were betas. Kurt Cobain was a weak man who killed himself.
Popular music has gotten too wussified since the 1960s/1970s though.
The songs sound pleasant but the messages in them are quite beta.Bro, "Every rose has its thorn" is a f*cking masterpiece. That guitar solo cuts through "like a knife".
I just listened to "Cinderella's "Dont Know What You Got" - and damn its a good song also. Thanks for the suggestion.
I'm not a huge Poison fan, they're okay. The lyrics are on the beta side, I would agree. But the title Every Rose Has its Thorn is a true statement. I would say all love holds some measure of pain, and I'm not necessarily talking about romantic love either. For example, if you love your parents and they die, it's going to hurt. When you love someone or something, it makes you vulnerable.The songs sound pleasant but the messages in them are quite beta.
A lot of it's a sales pitch, these are perceived as macho and edgy dudes being soft for the women who've been hurt by "bad boys" in the past.The songs sound pleasant but the messages in them are quite beta.
Yea, not exactly.Funnily enough this guy's own dad was a well-known hard rocker
The "Overdrive" in Bachman Turner Overdrive refers to being balls-out. Tal, the son, seems to be driving a Prius.
You'd figure this guy grew up being able to get trim as a chad/chadlite, from a well-off family and the son of a celebrity who's a solid, masculine dude. Yet his mark on the world is an ode to pedestalization, which is a little odd.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.