Eighth Passenger
Don Juan
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I have nothing else to say.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The advice offered within this forum is NOT for everyone.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I actually kind of agree. I think the best way to get the most out of this site is to take the information and advice given here, and then tailor it to yourself.
You sort of have to pick and choose the tips you want to take. If you think you are doing fine in area X, but need to work on area Y, then disregard most of the stuff that talks about X and learn how to improve Y.
If we all did exactly what this site said to no one would be different. There is a ton of great advice, help, tips etc on this site, its up to you to decide what fits you and your goal.
You sort of have to pick and choose the tips you want to take. If you think you are doing fine in area X, but need to work on area Y, then disregard most of the stuff that talks about X and learn how to improve Y.
If we all did exactly what this site said to no one would be different. There is a ton of great advice, help, tips etc on this site, its up to you to decide what fits you and your goal.
evolvingnerd
Senior Don Juan
that is very true, as seen by the different countries
in america, girls are waaaaaaay more slutty than anywhere else
in some places, girls are extremely shy and reserved...
you get the idea
in america, girls are waaaaaaay more slutty than anywhere else
in some places, girls are extremely shy and reserved...
you get the idea
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
We all know this. And the reason for that is because not everyone is willing or capable of learning the things that are discussed here.
I take it your referring to yourself? You've been here one month, you might try sticking around for awhile and learning some things.
I take it your referring to yourself? You've been here one month, you might try sticking around for awhile and learning some things.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
Lol.
Good point. In that case, disregard what I said. I agree
Good point. In that case, disregard what I said. I agree
Player_Supreme
Banned
I agree 100%. Some of us are true hard core players. Some are Symps and AFC LTRers. This section needs a hard core section for real players.
And a section for the Oprah lovers fan club. lol.
And a section for the Oprah lovers fan club. lol.
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
No.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Player_Supreme
Banned
NO. But if your an AFC when you go into it then of course your going to be an AFC during and at the end of it.
Do you think that if I went into another ltr and I've been in 3 8 year ones that I'd be actin like an AFC? Hell naww kid.
The way you start is the way you will finish.