"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The 48 laws of power make you a man of low value

tesla8520

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You ever read that book?
Basically would make you a low value man, because youve no integrity nor inner/internal validation or game.

This is the reverse of what makes a man attractive and successful in life, which is being stoic

If we want the good people and the good women in our life, we shall not follow those advices, but you may find it helpful to discover the people who are manipulators
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I partially agree with you in the sense that being dishonest makes you less effective in the long run because dishonest brings you into conflict with reality.

What makes a man attractive is being effective, which in essence comes from his ability to reason, not necessarily stoicism.
 

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You ever read that book?
Basically would make you a low value man, because youve no integrity nor inner/internal validation or game.

This is the reverse of what makes a man attractive and successful in life, which is being stoic

If we want the good people and the good women in our life, we shall not follow those advices, but you may find it helpful to discover the people who are manipulators
I do not think that you have understood the book.
 

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you can tell by the author's lips that he clearly nose something about '48...
 

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ner/internal validation
Men need validation from others, whether they admit it or not. Those who say otherwise should try living secluded from other human beings and see how it feels. They should go with no friends, no women, no family, no praise, affection, etc.

Stoicism = “I won by losing!”
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The author originally wrote 48 Laws Of Power not as a guidebook, but as an exposure of those who have power and get it and use it through manipulative means.

A "look how terrible powerful people are" kind of perspective from a weak, sour grapes standpoint.

The book took off, people started treated it as a 'how to book" and the author became an overnight success.

Since then, he's changed his tune and tried to write other "how to" books based on alleged secrets of human nature.

People who quote or reference the 48 Laws of Power do so to try to give themselves more status and credibility.

If you do wish to improve your social status and influence, there are far better books.

Sun Tzu (Art of War, the 36 Stratagems) and Machiavelli to name a couple.
 

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Mistaking ANY individual text for The Truth depletes your power. SOME might call that Low Value
 

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Mistaking ANY individual text for The Truth depletes your power. SOME might call that Low Value
Sure, but in practice it didn't matter how many nations expelled them; they kept persisting and now they run the world.
 

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knowledge can be power. how the man applies the knowledge is as valuable as the knowledge.
 

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Strongly disagree. Your viewpoint is a limiting belief. 48 Laws of Power is truly an insight into human behavior (as are his other books to varying degrees). How you leverage the information and to what extent is defined by your personal character and desired goals.

Everyone has degrees of narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism, men and women alike, for example. Being aware of them doesn't suddenly make you full-blown versions of them. Same with the facets of the 48 Laws.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The old lady has The Prince, The Art of War, and 48 Laws of power at the bedside table at all times. Also the Art of Seduction a couple of Jordan Petersen books.

It benefits you to have a depth of understanding about human nature, especially as you find yourself surrounded by more upwardly mobile people.

Study and learn the game, lest you are easily outplayed.
 

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You ever read that book?
Basically would make you a low value man, because youve no integrity nor inner/internal validation or game.
So reading the book 48 Laws of Weakness would make you a high value man.
 

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You ever read that book?
Basically would make you a low value man, because youve no integrity nor inner/internal validation or game.

This is the reverse of what makes a man attractive and successful in life, which is being stoic

If we want the good people and the good women in our life, we shall not follow those advices, but you may find it helpful to discover the people who are manipulators
Going to guess this is an opinion coming from someone who has done very little in life and accomplished even less.
 
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