Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
too much **** to read...tried thoughSamTheHobit said:The no contact rule is the best piece of advice sosuave has I think . . . If any thing else it can give you all you power back after a girl broke it off with you..a few examples in the 48 laws of power "Use absence to increase respect and honor" and mort important of all "Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge" any one else read the 48 laws of power?
Yes, 48 Laws of Power is a must-read, my favorite line is: "Love doesn't die of starvation, it dies of indigestion".SamTheHobit said:any one else read the 48 laws of power?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I have read much of it, and it is interesting reading. Even if you don't follow all the rules yourself, being aware of them is certainly important. So many people let themselves be affected by these things unthinkingly.SamTheHobit said:The no contact rule is the best piece of advice sosuave has I think . . . If any thing else it can give you all you power back after a girl broke it off with you..a few examples in the 48 laws of power "Use absence to increase respect and honor" and mort important of all "Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge" any one else read the 48 laws of power?
Exactly. You're winning two battles with one simple step.DropZone3 said:The no contact rule rocks as it accomplishes two things at once. It gives the man time to heal and reflect on himself and denies the attention that women crave.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.