"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Thanks for teaching me the 'NoContact' Rule
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SamTheHobit
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too much **** to read...tried thoughSamTheHobit said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have read much of it, and it is interesting reading. Even if you don't follow all the rules yourself, being aware of them is certainly important. So many people let themselves be affected by these things unthinkingly.SamTheHobit said:
I know a guy who is a master manipulator. He follows these laws clearly by design. Everybody likes him, but he is never there for you if there is a conflict between you and someone else - yet he will agree with both sides when he talks to the people involved alone. And so on. Takes a while to see through it all, most people never do.
The 48 Laws of Power should be followed, but in a decent way, not like the example I mention above. For example, the No Contact rule that WorkingDJ mentions. I agree, it works.
Exactly. You're winning two battles with one simple step.DropZone3 said:
She is most likely wondering about you and perhaps second guessing
her actions.
and more importantly you are getting over it and moving on.
win win.
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Wish I'd known of it earlier.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
My most successful case has been with this one girl. I'd say she has some emotional issues, but when I went no Contact on her, she went crazy. In 2 weeks she was blowing up my phone - trying to make ME feel guilty. Few days later I delete her from Facebook to advance my no contact, ***** goes physco again blowing up my phone. I still maintain No Contact
Few weeks later I see her at a Banquet and she later texts me "lets be friends," II didn't really care though.
We aren't friends and when I get into a relationship with this other girl she makes a facebook status about me.. hahaha
NO CONTACT RULE: Successful.
Don't want her back, No Intentions of it either
And the worst thing is until she breaks and has had enough;the more time goes by the more she craves attention
This is fantastic