"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thanks for teaching me the 'NoContact' Rule
- Thread starter WorkingDJ
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SamTheHobit
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too much **** to read...tried thoughSamTheHobit said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have read much of it, and it is interesting reading. Even if you don't follow all the rules yourself, being aware of them is certainly important. So many people let themselves be affected by these things unthinkingly.SamTheHobit said:
I know a guy who is a master manipulator. He follows these laws clearly by design. Everybody likes him, but he is never there for you if there is a conflict between you and someone else - yet he will agree with both sides when he talks to the people involved alone. And so on. Takes a while to see through it all, most people never do.
The 48 Laws of Power should be followed, but in a decent way, not like the example I mention above. For example, the No Contact rule that WorkingDJ mentions. I agree, it works.
Exactly. You're winning two battles with one simple step.DropZone3 said:
She is most likely wondering about you and perhaps second guessing
her actions.
and more importantly you are getting over it and moving on.
win win.
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Wish I'd known of it earlier.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My most successful case has been with this one girl. I'd say she has some emotional issues, but when I went no Contact on her, she went crazy. In 2 weeks she was blowing up my phone - trying to make ME feel guilty. Few days later I delete her from Facebook to advance my no contact, ***** goes physco again blowing up my phone. I still maintain No Contact
Few weeks later I see her at a Banquet and she later texts me "lets be friends," II didn't really care though.
We aren't friends and when I get into a relationship with this other girl she makes a facebook status about me.. hahaha
NO CONTACT RULE: Successful.
Don't want her back, No Intentions of it either
And the worst thing is until she breaks and has had enough;the more time goes by the more she craves attention
This is fantastic