You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
too much **** to read...tried thoughSamTheHobit said:The no contact rule is the best piece of advice sosuave has I think . . . If any thing else it can give you all you power back after a girl broke it off with you..a few examples in the 48 laws of power "Use absence to increase respect and honor" and mort important of all "Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge" any one else read the 48 laws of power?
Yes, 48 Laws of Power is a must-read, my favorite line is: "Love doesn't die of starvation, it dies of indigestion".SamTheHobit said:any one else read the 48 laws of power?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I have read much of it, and it is interesting reading. Even if you don't follow all the rules yourself, being aware of them is certainly important. So many people let themselves be affected by these things unthinkingly.SamTheHobit said:The no contact rule is the best piece of advice sosuave has I think . . . If any thing else it can give you all you power back after a girl broke it off with you..a few examples in the 48 laws of power "Use absence to increase respect and honor" and mort important of all "Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge" any one else read the 48 laws of power?
Exactly. You're winning two battles with one simple step.DropZone3 said:The no contact rule rocks as it accomplishes two things at once. It gives the man time to heal and reflect on himself and denies the attention that women crave.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.