backseatjuan
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Expectations kill the game man. Why not flake on her or just plain forget her for couple of weeks?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ariesc
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I told her let's meet at 5 at this restaurant. She agreed. We'll see if that 100% flake rate holds water... From past experience sometimes being a little persistent but not completely needy isn't necessarily a bad thing. If she flakes, you guys can rub it in my face. lol
We'll see what happens. Expectations do kill the game.
nicksaiz65
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What are some signs of low interest when texting?
nicksaiz65
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I feel you. If you know you know I guess lol
RangerMIke
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Texting isn't a game... it's a form of communication. My advice is to text to set up a date... and when you ask a chick out, give her a time, date, activity and TELL her you will pick her up. Sometimes chicks don't want you coming to her home when she first meets you, I totally get that, so at that point just tell her where to meet you. Any other response other than yes should be considered no. If she makes a counter offer, it has to be a LEGITIMATE counter offer like "I can't make it then, how about we do something on [date/time]" and you don't have anything planned then go ahead and accept it. If you have plans then tell her you'll hit her up again later... and if the mood hits you to make another pass, try again.
Invite her to things you are doing ANYWAY, so if you are planning to go out to eat.... maybe a new restaurant in town you want to try out, then go ahead and ask her. I've done this on 1st dates frequently... never hurt me. But I never have open ended invites I always have a plan and then I invite chicks along... if one isn't available... it's onto the next one with the same offer... If none bit I go alone and see what I can stir up.
Fill your social calendar with things you want to do first. This does a couple of things, FIRST it gives her a chance to adjust her behavior to please you, which gets her to commit time towards you, the more she does this the more she likes you. SECOND, women will wear the hat you give her, if she likes you.. if she doesn't then she won't... at that point you should get the message and no nothing is going to happen, or it's going to be a lot harder.
The 'game' doesn't start until she actually meets you on a date... until that happens she should be nothing to you.
Invite her to things you are doing ANYWAY, so if you are planning to go out to eat.... maybe a new restaurant in town you want to try out, then go ahead and ask her. I've done this on 1st dates frequently... never hurt me. But I never have open ended invites I always have a plan and then I invite chicks along... if one isn't available... it's onto the next one with the same offer... If none bit I go alone and see what I can stir up.
Fill your social calendar with things you want to do first. This does a couple of things, FIRST it gives her a chance to adjust her behavior to please you, which gets her to commit time towards you, the more she does this the more she likes you. SECOND, women will wear the hat you give her, if she likes you.. if she doesn't then she won't... at that point you should get the message and no nothing is going to happen, or it's going to be a lot harder.
The 'game' doesn't start until she actually meets you on a date... until that happens she should be nothing to you.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
nicksaiz65
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Congrats on the hookup though