backseatjuan
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Expectations kill the game man. Why not flake on her or just plain forget her for couple of weeks?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ariesc
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I told her let's meet at 5 at this restaurant. She agreed. We'll see if that 100% flake rate holds water... From past experience sometimes being a little persistent but not completely needy isn't necessarily a bad thing. If she flakes, you guys can rub it in my face. lol
We'll see what happens. Expectations do kill the game.
nicksaiz65
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What are some signs of low interest when texting?
nicksaiz65
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I feel you. If you know you know I guess lol
RangerMIke
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Texting isn't a game... it's a form of communication. My advice is to text to set up a date... and when you ask a chick out, give her a time, date, activity and TELL her you will pick her up. Sometimes chicks don't want you coming to her home when she first meets you, I totally get that, so at that point just tell her where to meet you. Any other response other than yes should be considered no. If she makes a counter offer, it has to be a LEGITIMATE counter offer like "I can't make it then, how about we do something on [date/time]" and you don't have anything planned then go ahead and accept it. If you have plans then tell her you'll hit her up again later... and if the mood hits you to make another pass, try again.
Invite her to things you are doing ANYWAY, so if you are planning to go out to eat.... maybe a new restaurant in town you want to try out, then go ahead and ask her. I've done this on 1st dates frequently... never hurt me. But I never have open ended invites I always have a plan and then I invite chicks along... if one isn't available... it's onto the next one with the same offer... If none bit I go alone and see what I can stir up.
Fill your social calendar with things you want to do first. This does a couple of things, FIRST it gives her a chance to adjust her behavior to please you, which gets her to commit time towards you, the more she does this the more she likes you. SECOND, women will wear the hat you give her, if she likes you.. if she doesn't then she won't... at that point you should get the message and no nothing is going to happen, or it's going to be a lot harder.
The 'game' doesn't start until she actually meets you on a date... until that happens she should be nothing to you.
Invite her to things you are doing ANYWAY, so if you are planning to go out to eat.... maybe a new restaurant in town you want to try out, then go ahead and ask her. I've done this on 1st dates frequently... never hurt me. But I never have open ended invites I always have a plan and then I invite chicks along... if one isn't available... it's onto the next one with the same offer... If none bit I go alone and see what I can stir up.
Fill your social calendar with things you want to do first. This does a couple of things, FIRST it gives her a chance to adjust her behavior to please you, which gets her to commit time towards you, the more she does this the more she likes you. SECOND, women will wear the hat you give her, if she likes you.. if she doesn't then she won't... at that point you should get the message and no nothing is going to happen, or it's going to be a lot harder.
The 'game' doesn't start until she actually meets you on a date... until that happens she should be nothing to you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
nicksaiz65
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Congrats on the hookup though