backseatjuan
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Expectations kill the game man. Why not flake on her or just plain forget her for couple of weeks?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ariesc
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I told her let's meet at 5 at this restaurant. She agreed. We'll see if that 100% flake rate holds water... From past experience sometimes being a little persistent but not completely needy isn't necessarily a bad thing. If she flakes, you guys can rub it in my face. lol
We'll see what happens. Expectations do kill the game.
nicksaiz65
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What are some signs of low interest when texting?
nicksaiz65
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I feel you. If you know you know I guess lol
RangerMIke
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Texting isn't a game... it's a form of communication. My advice is to text to set up a date... and when you ask a chick out, give her a time, date, activity and TELL her you will pick her up. Sometimes chicks don't want you coming to her home when she first meets you, I totally get that, so at that point just tell her where to meet you. Any other response other than yes should be considered no. If she makes a counter offer, it has to be a LEGITIMATE counter offer like "I can't make it then, how about we do something on [date/time]" and you don't have anything planned then go ahead and accept it. If you have plans then tell her you'll hit her up again later... and if the mood hits you to make another pass, try again.
Invite her to things you are doing ANYWAY, so if you are planning to go out to eat.... maybe a new restaurant in town you want to try out, then go ahead and ask her. I've done this on 1st dates frequently... never hurt me. But I never have open ended invites I always have a plan and then I invite chicks along... if one isn't available... it's onto the next one with the same offer... If none bit I go alone and see what I can stir up.
Fill your social calendar with things you want to do first. This does a couple of things, FIRST it gives her a chance to adjust her behavior to please you, which gets her to commit time towards you, the more she does this the more she likes you. SECOND, women will wear the hat you give her, if she likes you.. if she doesn't then she won't... at that point you should get the message and no nothing is going to happen, or it's going to be a lot harder.
The 'game' doesn't start until she actually meets you on a date... until that happens she should be nothing to you.
Invite her to things you are doing ANYWAY, so if you are planning to go out to eat.... maybe a new restaurant in town you want to try out, then go ahead and ask her. I've done this on 1st dates frequently... never hurt me. But I never have open ended invites I always have a plan and then I invite chicks along... if one isn't available... it's onto the next one with the same offer... If none bit I go alone and see what I can stir up.
Fill your social calendar with things you want to do first. This does a couple of things, FIRST it gives her a chance to adjust her behavior to please you, which gets her to commit time towards you, the more she does this the more she likes you. SECOND, women will wear the hat you give her, if she likes you.. if she doesn't then she won't... at that point you should get the message and no nothing is going to happen, or it's going to be a lot harder.
The 'game' doesn't start until she actually meets you on a date... until that happens she should be nothing to you.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
nicksaiz65
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Congrats on the hookup though