Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
But my shrink recommends taking it before a stressful situation (I also have panic attacks)real2 said:Even after plastic surgery, thousands of women still don't overcome their insecurity about themselves.
Overcome your inhibitions with practice!!
General anxiety is faced by absolutely everyone on this planet at one point or another; valium is just a temporary quick-fix.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .real2 said:Harder said than done!!
Even for myself sometimes, and I'm pro at some DJ techniques :cheer:
So what do you do after you've tried to bring your self to do this hundreds of times but still fail to act?Daddy The Pimp said:True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .
3 , 2 , 1 and im IN . I just spit my prepared opener , hook them and keep the conversation going through routines and other sh1t . Than change to natural conversations .
This technique is GOOD because it reduces AA . Doesnt let your mind thinking about negative things , dont let the fear grow inside you . Within 3 seconds , you're IN .
So , before going out , prepare some openers . And the moment you see the girl you're attracted , dont think about it . Just go in . Force yourself in . This is the best way to defeat AA and dont let your fear hold you back .
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wolf116 said:So what do you do after you've tried to bring your self to do this hundreds of times but still fail to act?
Yeah that's great advice, everyone who suffers from anxiety and mental blocks should just kill themselves.Daddy The Pimp said:No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.Daddy The Pimp said:No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
lr2spllplzkthx.connor32 said:why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.
Weed dose not reduce anxiety.Rhoto said:lr2spllplzkthx.![]()
OP -But why not just smoke weed? It's cheaper and less addictive.
I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.wolf116 said:Weed dose not reduce anxiety.
You're talking to a weekly smoker (vaporizer) here.Rhoto said:I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.