"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Taking valium to reduced AA

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My doctor prescribed me 270tabs of valium for one month to see if it can calm my anxiety (general anxiety as well) and i was wondering if it was good for removing approach anxiety?

Is it bad to have to take some for AA?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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real2 said:
Even after plastic surgery, thousands of women still don't overcome their insecurity about themselves.

Overcome your inhibitions with practice!!

General anxiety is faced by absolutely everyone on this planet at one point or another; valium is just a temporary quick-fix.
But my shrink recommends taking it before a stressful situation (I also have panic attacks)
 

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I find it a lot easier to make cold approaches after i've taken one though, and it just seems that the PUA flows through me a lot better.
 

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If you really have to take that ****, I would not stay on it for very long. You end up becoming addicted. For me I use exercise. Great for reducing stress and anxiety.
 

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It sounds like you're trying to justify taking these pills to yourself.

I highly recommend that if you're going to take them that it only be temporary. You can easily take this too far, and learn to become dependent on the effects of these pills. Use it as it was intended, a method to temporarily bring relief so that you can deal with any issues. There are far more healthy and productive means to achieving the same results in the long term.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LISTEN VERY FKN CLOSELY! do not take more than is prescribed. it is very easy to become dependent on valium/xanax. doctors prescribe this sh!t like it's candy. WITHRDRAWAL FROM THESE PILLS IS EXTREMELY SEVERE! I know it feels great to be calm and i know anxiety is a b!tch but realize these little pills have powerful effects on your brain. Panic attacks can be overcome. Eventually you learn how to just let them pass. Just be careful. Don't take them just for kicks. Don't take them unless you really need them. Don't take them to help you fall asleep. If you don't believe me u can google "valium withdrawal" and read the horror stories.
 

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If it works, it works.

How much easer is it?

I'd use it like real2 said, slowly work your way off them. But if you have an additive personality I wouldn't do it at all.
 

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real2 said:
Harder said than done!!

Even for myself sometimes, and I'm pro at some DJ techniques :cheer:
True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .

3 , 2 , 1 and im IN . I just spit my prepared opener , hook them and keep the conversation going through routines and other sh1t . Than change to natural conversations .


This technique is GOOD because it reduces AA . Doesnt let your mind thinking about negative things , dont let the fear grow inside you . Within 3 seconds , you're IN .


So , before going out , prepare some openers . And the moment you see the girl you're attracted , dont think about it . Just go in . Force yourself in . This is the best way to defeat AA and dont let your fear hold you back .
 

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Daddy The Pimp said:
True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .

3 , 2 , 1 and im IN . I just spit my prepared opener , hook them and keep the conversation going through routines and other sh1t . Than change to natural conversations .


This technique is GOOD because it reduces AA . Doesnt let your mind thinking about negative things , dont let the fear grow inside you . Within 3 seconds , you're IN .


So , before going out , prepare some openers . And the moment you see the girl you're attracted , dont think about it . Just go in . Force yourself in . This is the best way to defeat AA and dont let your fear hold you back .
So what do you do after you've tried to bring your self to do this hundreds of times but still fail to act?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you guys r totally missing the point here. it's not just approach anxiety. he also has general anxiety. the point here is that he needs to be careful with the pills.
 

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The real change will come from changing your emotions and beliefs.
Especially if you had years of repetitive bad thoughts and emotions you need to pay a closer attention to: 1. your emotions 2. your beliefs
You need to attack the both sides, especially the first.There are many new techniques for doing this..
The pills are only a quick fix. You need to change at the identity level in order to keep the changes, to have lasting changes.
 

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Exercise. Meditate. Pray. Do things you enjoy. Take a break from women for a while and focus on yourself. Work on your general anxiety issues first. Then worry about women later. They never stop making women you know. They will be there when you get back.
 

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Daddy The Pimp said:
No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
Yeah that's great advice, everyone who suffers from anxiety and mental blocks should just kill themselves.

There are more ways to meet women then approaching. I get more pu$$y then a lot of the guys here without it, but it is not optimal.

I say use the drugs if they help.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Daddy The Pimp said:
No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.
 

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connor32 said:
why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.
lr2spllplzkthx. ;)

OP -But why not just smoke weed? It's cheaper and less addictive.
 

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Rhoto said:
lr2spllplzkthx. ;)

OP -But why not just smoke weed? It's cheaper and less addictive.
Weed dose not reduce anxiety.
 

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wolf116 said:
Weed dose not reduce anxiety.
I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.
 

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Rhoto said:
I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.
You're talking to a weekly smoker (vaporizer) here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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