Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
But my shrink recommends taking it before a stressful situation (I also have panic attacks)real2 said:Even after plastic surgery, thousands of women still don't overcome their insecurity about themselves.
Overcome your inhibitions with practice!!
General anxiety is faced by absolutely everyone on this planet at one point or another; valium is just a temporary quick-fix.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .real2 said:Harder said than done!!
Even for myself sometimes, and I'm pro at some DJ techniques :cheer:
So what do you do after you've tried to bring your self to do this hundreds of times but still fail to act?Daddy The Pimp said:True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .
3 , 2 , 1 and im IN . I just spit my prepared opener , hook them and keep the conversation going through routines and other sh1t . Than change to natural conversations .
This technique is GOOD because it reduces AA . Doesnt let your mind thinking about negative things , dont let the fear grow inside you . Within 3 seconds , you're IN .
So , before going out , prepare some openers . And the moment you see the girl you're attracted , dont think about it . Just go in . Force yourself in . This is the best way to defeat AA and dont let your fear hold you back .
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wolf116 said:So what do you do after you've tried to bring your self to do this hundreds of times but still fail to act?
Yeah that's great advice, everyone who suffers from anxiety and mental blocks should just kill themselves.Daddy The Pimp said:No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.Daddy The Pimp said:No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
lr2spllplzkthx.connor32 said:why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.
Weed dose not reduce anxiety.Rhoto said:lr2spllplzkthx.![]()
OP -But why not just smoke weed? It's cheaper and less addictive.
I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.wolf116 said:Weed dose not reduce anxiety.
You're talking to a weekly smoker (vaporizer) here.Rhoto said:I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.