"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Taking valium to reduced AA

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My doctor prescribed me 270tabs of valium for one month to see if it can calm my anxiety (general anxiety as well) and i was wondering if it was good for removing approach anxiety?

Is it bad to have to take some for AA?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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real2 said:
Even after plastic surgery, thousands of women still don't overcome their insecurity about themselves.

Overcome your inhibitions with practice!!

General anxiety is faced by absolutely everyone on this planet at one point or another; valium is just a temporary quick-fix.
But my shrink recommends taking it before a stressful situation (I also have panic attacks)
 

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I find it a lot easier to make cold approaches after i've taken one though, and it just seems that the PUA flows through me a lot better.
 

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If you really have to take that ****, I would not stay on it for very long. You end up becoming addicted. For me I use exercise. Great for reducing stress and anxiety.
 

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It sounds like you're trying to justify taking these pills to yourself.

I highly recommend that if you're going to take them that it only be temporary. You can easily take this too far, and learn to become dependent on the effects of these pills. Use it as it was intended, a method to temporarily bring relief so that you can deal with any issues. There are far more healthy and productive means to achieving the same results in the long term.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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LISTEN VERY FKN CLOSELY! do not take more than is prescribed. it is very easy to become dependent on valium/xanax. doctors prescribe this sh!t like it's candy. WITHRDRAWAL FROM THESE PILLS IS EXTREMELY SEVERE! I know it feels great to be calm and i know anxiety is a b!tch but realize these little pills have powerful effects on your brain. Panic attacks can be overcome. Eventually you learn how to just let them pass. Just be careful. Don't take them just for kicks. Don't take them unless you really need them. Don't take them to help you fall asleep. If you don't believe me u can google "valium withdrawal" and read the horror stories.
 

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If it works, it works.

How much easer is it?

I'd use it like real2 said, slowly work your way off them. But if you have an additive personality I wouldn't do it at all.
 

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real2 said:
Harder said than done!!

Even for myself sometimes, and I'm pro at some DJ techniques :cheer:
True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .

3 , 2 , 1 and im IN . I just spit my prepared opener , hook them and keep the conversation going through routines and other sh1t . Than change to natural conversations .


This technique is GOOD because it reduces AA . Doesnt let your mind thinking about negative things , dont let the fear grow inside you . Within 3 seconds , you're IN .


So , before going out , prepare some openers . And the moment you see the girl you're attracted , dont think about it . Just go in . Force yourself in . This is the best way to defeat AA and dont let your fear hold you back .
 

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Daddy The Pimp said:
True . Its hard . But i force myself to do it . 3 seconds .

3 , 2 , 1 and im IN . I just spit my prepared opener , hook them and keep the conversation going through routines and other sh1t . Than change to natural conversations .


This technique is GOOD because it reduces AA . Doesnt let your mind thinking about negative things , dont let the fear grow inside you . Within 3 seconds , you're IN .


So , before going out , prepare some openers . And the moment you see the girl you're attracted , dont think about it . Just go in . Force yourself in . This is the best way to defeat AA and dont let your fear hold you back .
So what do you do after you've tried to bring your self to do this hundreds of times but still fail to act?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you guys r totally missing the point here. it's not just approach anxiety. he also has general anxiety. the point here is that he needs to be careful with the pills.
 

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The real change will come from changing your emotions and beliefs.
Especially if you had years of repetitive bad thoughts and emotions you need to pay a closer attention to: 1. your emotions 2. your beliefs
You need to attack the both sides, especially the first.There are many new techniques for doing this..
The pills are only a quick fix. You need to change at the identity level in order to keep the changes, to have lasting changes.
 

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Exercise. Meditate. Pray. Do things you enjoy. Take a break from women for a while and focus on yourself. Work on your general anxiety issues first. Then worry about women later. They never stop making women you know. They will be there when you get back.
 

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Daddy The Pimp said:
No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
Yeah that's great advice, everyone who suffers from anxiety and mental blocks should just kill themselves.

There are more ways to meet women then approaching. I get more pu$$y then a lot of the guys here without it, but it is not optimal.

I say use the drugs if they help.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Daddy The Pimp said:
No fvcking way to fail . If you dont have control over your body , go kill yourself .
why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.
 

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connor32 said:
why r there morons like you in this world. people like u r so unnecessary. you're a douche.
lr2spllplzkthx. ;)

OP -But why not just smoke weed? It's cheaper and less addictive.
 

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Rhoto said:
lr2spllplzkthx. ;)

OP -But why not just smoke weed? It's cheaper and less addictive.
Weed dose not reduce anxiety.
 

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wolf116 said:
Weed dose not reduce anxiety.
I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.
 

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Rhoto said:
I partially agree with this, but disagree greatly too. I don't have time to discuss it at this moment, but I will check back if this thread doesn't devolve.
You're talking to a weekly smoker (vaporizer) here.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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