Suggestion: Long term relationship forum?

[aBAzLLnA]

Just a suggestion? I'm not sure if this has been brought up already, but I remember 3-4 years ago someone tried to start one and it was horribly unsuccessful.

 

[djSlvt]

I think there is no need for one. Reason being is that how many of us want an LTR? Or how many of us had an LTR and qualify to give advice about it?


NONE.



Because if you're happily married you won't be here. SS is about good lovers, not good husbands. Mothers raise good husbands.



Aside from that point, if you have basic skill, you should be able to keep a woman satisfied for a long time, IMO.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

I think there is no need for one. Reason being is that how many of us want an LTR? Or how many of us had an LTR and qualify to give advice about it?


NONE.

Oh, I didn't know you were the spokesperson for the whole population here at sosuave.

Aside from that point, if you have basic skill, you should be able to keep a woman satisfied for a long time, IMO.

You've got a lot to learn if that's your mindset. There's a lot to keeping a relationship together.

 

[djSlvt]

hahaha, get defensive and bring me down some more until your glory shines brighter than the sun. You too, have a lot to learn.

 

[Monaco]

I agree with the OP, maintaining a relationship is a lot more challenging then actually getting one and there should be a specific place to discuss it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'm all for LTR's and/or discussing them. As for a spin-off forum, I think there was one just a couple of years ago. I think the amount of success was based on the amount of interaction.

So many times guys are flamed for looking toward finding a quality woman as opposed to consuming mass quantities of poonani so they stay in the shadows and lurk. It's a catch 22 situation.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

we got enough forums as is. Why do people always think we need a subforum and what not? Just post in a thread repeatedly and those interested will respond...

 

[Jariel]

Yeah, this is a suggestion many of us have been making for a long time. It's difficult finding decent and reliable LTR advice on here and just as hard finding someone with the experience to give it.

Many of the DJ principles apply to LTRs - improve yourself and develop a solid foundation as a man, maintain your pride and confidence and so on. But many of the PUA advice absolutely does not work in LTRs! You cannot be playing mind games and using gimmicks to maintain a relationship.

Despite what the outspoken majority here preach, I believe there are a lot of guys who would ideally prefer a solid relationship, but they just don't know how to keep a woman for the long term. Even the PUA legend Mystery hasn't mastered that! And didn't Neil Strauss' fiance cheat on him?

LTRs are a whole different game, but don't expect a new forum any time soon (or ever!).

 

[aBAzLLnA]

Well, personally, as a man in a long term/ long distance relationship for over two years, I would love to share my experience, and would love to learn from those who are also in long term relationships. Unfortunately though, based on the responses doesn't seem like any type of subforum will exist. And the problem with starting a new forum is that there aren't many guys out there in the first place in long term relationships.

I just think there should be some type of community where LTR's are focused upon, and where guys who are seeing recurring problems in their LTR can bring it up and discuss them. As Francisco said, a problem with posting LTR help here in the ss forum is that the mindset is completely different, and little constructive criticism or advice might come out of that.

 

[penkitten]

why dont we just start naming threads about ltr's differently.
example: LTR motivation
LTR frustration
LTR happiness
LTR whatever you can think of
that way we know which ones are about the ltr's before we even click on the thread.

what do you think?

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Because if you're happily married you won't be here.

I'm happily married and I'm here, but I get what you're saying. I'm also not here for advice, either.

 

[Treetz]

I also like to see a LTR forum! Great idea! LTR is different part of the dj'ing thing in my opinion!

 

[Nighthawk]

I'm in a 2 year LTR, been in several before including a 9 year one, was married also (2 years). My advice is you have to be the real deal and be good at filtering out the unsuitable.

After a while casual sex feels empty and juggling different women is tiring.

 

[Treetz]

why dont we just start naming threads about ltr's differently.
example: LTR motivation
LTR frustration
LTR happiness
LTR whatever you can think of
that way we know which ones are about the ltr's before we even click on the thread.

what do you think?

When the moderators create a (sub)forum, all the LTR threads are centralized. Why dont we create a forum for LTR and see if there are going to be enough threads/posts, if not then the forum can be deleted...

 

[lordson]

not everybody here is a jerk who just wants to fvck as many women as possible

personally, the occasional meanignless lay is okay, but i'm always looking for that girl i canr eally connect with

luckily i've already found that, and am in a LTR

and wouldn't mind a place to discuss the trials and tribulations that go with it

 

[mpimpin]

I would like to hear some more input on this issue from some other members.

 

[Treetz]

mpimpin, is there a possibility to create a (sub)forum for LTR discussion to see if there is enough posting going down for lets say two months or so? This thread already had more proponents then antagonists! I say lets give it a try!

 

[mpimpin]

I'll bring it up in our mod suggestion discussion we have going.

 

[MacAvoy]

If your under 25, you shouldn't be in an LTR. Your too young, you should be out sowing your at that age because your still full of p1ss & vineagre.

Once your over 25, you can post in the MM forum where you'll get quality LTR advice, hence declaring the need for a LTR forum obsolete.

 

[mpimpin]

I agree with MacAvoy in that fact that the MM forum is a good place for LTR advice and I have read advice in there myself. I have to disagree though about not being in one if your under 25. Everyone is different and not all of us are out there looking to bang lots of women. And just the opposite with many older guys. My own father is still a rollingstone