You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Do you think it is possible to learn how to wrestle and such after college?NAGA runs most of the tournaments in the US. They have gi, no gi, and age/skill level matches.
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Do you think it is possible to learn how to wrestle and such after college?
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I started at age 34. Everyone starts somewhere. Most important is finding a good place to train, with good supervision. Beating up new people for fun is lame and a sign that it is not a quality gym.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Takedowns are a weak spot of bjj. Everyone at Naga wants to pull guard. It's annoying.@Bible_Belt
I meant like learn actual wrestling rather than just BJJ and MMA. I have been trying to see if I can learn how to properly do a takedown, maintain control, and prevent being taken down. Seriously trying to get into MMA soon as soon as I get my new job.
Got it, do MMA gyms teach wrestling at all or are there gyms that do?Takedowns are a weak spot of bjj. Everyone at Naga wants to pull guard. It's annoying.
Wrestling is like the opposite of jiu jitsu. Strength matters. Simply put, wrestling is better when you are winning, and bjj is better when you are losing.
I'm sure you can find it if you look. Some larger mma schools have style specific classes. There are also other types of wrestling besides American collegiate.Got it, do MMA gyms teach wrestling at all or are there gyms that do?
You will not find a wrestling specific school outside of high school teams and college club teams. There are a few Catch Wrestling schools but they are the exception.Got it, do MMA gyms teach wrestling at all or are there gyms that do?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thank you so much man. Also, how would you rate South Florida's MMA scene to elsewhere in the US?You will not find a wrestling specific school outside of high school teams and college club teams. There are a few Catch Wrestling schools but they are the exception.
MMA/ BJJ schools do teach wrestling. They incorporate it into their BJJ classes. Wrestling is going through a rebirth because of Brazilian Ju Jitsu competitions. The BJJ guys are starting to learn wrestling because takedowns are getting more difficult to get on wrestlers .
In my last competition I pretty much only did ok because I have a good wrestling single takedown. Other than that im fairly average. BJJ guys cant really wrestle but the gap is closing fast.
Some gyms have whole wrestling classes during the week. At the very least you will learn very basic wrestling if you go to a good BJJ school.
Broski i really dont know that much about Floridas MMA scene. I live far away from Florida. Have you done any combat sports before and how old are you if you dont mind me asking?Thank you so much man. Also, how would you rate South Florida's MMA scene to elsewhere in the US?
Did like Tae Kwon Do for 5 years as a kid if that counts and then boxing for a year at the age of 19.Broski i really dont know that much about Floridas MMA scene. I live far away from Florida. Have you done any combat sports before and how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
Man you are not old at 30 lol. I started at 33 yrs old. There are guys in their late 30s that can hang with the guys in their 20s.Did like Tae Kwon Do for 5 years as a kid if that counts and then boxing for a year at the age of 19.
I am 30 so kind of on the old side.
Has someone who has friends who wrestle and fought professionally south Florida is a hotbed for MMA fighters wrestlers kickboxers on and so forthThank you so much man. Also, how would you rate South Florida's MMA scene to elsewhere in the US?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What weight class do you compete?NAGA runs most of the tournaments in the US. They have gi, no gi, and age/skill level matches.
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This was years ago, 160 or so.What weight class do you compete?
YouTube best believe.You will not find a wrestling specific school outside of high school teams and college club teams. There are a few Catch Wrestling schools but they are the exception.
MMA/ BJJ schools do teach wrestling. They incorporate it into their BJJ classes. Wrestling is going through a rebirth because of Brazilian Ju Jitsu competitions. The BJJ guys are starting to learn wrestling because takedowns are getting more difficult to get on wrestlers .
In my last competition I pretty much only did ok because I have a good wrestling single takedown. Other than that im fairly average. BJJ guys cant really wrestle but the gap is closing fast.
Some gyms have whole wrestling classes during the week. At the very least you will learn very basic wrestling if you go to a good BJJ school.
How much?I'm in the UK, just starting my BJJ journey. Had my first class earlier today!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.