"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Do you think it is possible to learn how to wrestle and such after college?NAGA runs most of the tournaments in the US. They have gi, no gi, and age/skill level matches.
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Bible_Belt
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I meant like learn actual wrestling rather than just BJJ and MMA. I have been trying to see if I can learn how to properly do a takedown, maintain control, and prevent being taken down. Seriously trying to get into MMA soon as soon as I get my new job.
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Takedowns are a weak spot of bjj. Everyone at Naga wants to pull guard. It's annoying.
Wrestling is like the opposite of jiu jitsu. Strength matters. Simply put, wrestling is better when you are winning, and bjj is better when you are losing.
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Got it, do MMA gyms teach wrestling at all or are there gyms that do?
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I'm sure you can find it if you look. Some larger mma schools have style specific classes. There are also other types of wrestling besides American collegiate.
You will not find a wrestling specific school outside of high school teams and college club teams. There are a few Catch Wrestling schools but they are the exception.
MMA/ BJJ schools do teach wrestling. They incorporate it into their BJJ classes. Wrestling is going through a rebirth because of Brazilian Ju Jitsu competitions. The BJJ guys are starting to learn wrestling because takedowns are getting more difficult to get on wrestlers .
In my last competition I pretty much only did ok because I have a good wrestling single takedown. Other than that im fairly average. BJJ guys cant really wrestle but the gap is closing fast.
Some gyms have whole wrestling classes during the week. At the very least you will learn very basic wrestling if you go to a good BJJ school.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Thank you so much man. Also, how would you rate South Florida's MMA scene to elsewhere in the US?
Broski i really dont know that much about Floridas MMA scene. I live far away from Florida. Have you done any combat sports before and how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
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Did like Tae Kwon Do for 5 years as a kid if that counts and then boxing for a year at the age of 19.
I am 30 so kind of on the old side.
Man you are not old at 30 lol. I started at 33 yrs old. There are guys in their late 30s that can hang with the guys in their 20s.
Man i would start with Muy Thai and BJJ classes. Then transition into the MMA classes.
Has someone who has friends who wrestle and fought professionally south Florida is a hotbed for MMA fighters wrestlers kickboxers on and so forth
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What weight class do you compete?NAGA runs most of the tournaments in the US. They have gi, no gi, and age/skill level matches.
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This was years ago, 160 or so.
YouTube best believe.
How much?
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I imagine many MMA gyms opened to cap on that.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.