"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Do you think it is possible to learn how to wrestle and such after college?NAGA runs most of the tournaments in the US. They have gi, no gi, and age/skill level matches.
North American Grappling Association - NAGA Fighter
Home to the North American Grappling Association (NAGA). NAGA grappling & BJJ tournaments have divisions for all ages and skill levels.
Bible_Belt
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I meant like learn actual wrestling rather than just BJJ and MMA. I have been trying to see if I can learn how to properly do a takedown, maintain control, and prevent being taken down. Seriously trying to get into MMA soon as soon as I get my new job.
Bible_Belt
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Takedowns are a weak spot of bjj. Everyone at Naga wants to pull guard. It's annoying.
Wrestling is like the opposite of jiu jitsu. Strength matters. Simply put, wrestling is better when you are winning, and bjj is better when you are losing.
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Got it, do MMA gyms teach wrestling at all or are there gyms that do?
Bible_Belt
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I'm sure you can find it if you look. Some larger mma schools have style specific classes. There are also other types of wrestling besides American collegiate.
You will not find a wrestling specific school outside of high school teams and college club teams. There are a few Catch Wrestling schools but they are the exception.
MMA/ BJJ schools do teach wrestling. They incorporate it into their BJJ classes. Wrestling is going through a rebirth because of Brazilian Ju Jitsu competitions. The BJJ guys are starting to learn wrestling because takedowns are getting more difficult to get on wrestlers .
In my last competition I pretty much only did ok because I have a good wrestling single takedown. Other than that im fairly average. BJJ guys cant really wrestle but the gap is closing fast.
Some gyms have whole wrestling classes during the week. At the very least you will learn very basic wrestling if you go to a good BJJ school.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Thank you so much man. Also, how would you rate South Florida's MMA scene to elsewhere in the US?
Broski i really dont know that much about Floridas MMA scene. I live far away from Florida. Have you done any combat sports before and how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
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Did like Tae Kwon Do for 5 years as a kid if that counts and then boxing for a year at the age of 19.
I am 30 so kind of on the old side.
Man you are not old at 30 lol. I started at 33 yrs old. There are guys in their late 30s that can hang with the guys in their 20s.
Man i would start with Muy Thai and BJJ classes. Then transition into the MMA classes.
Has someone who has friends who wrestle and fought professionally south Florida is a hotbed for MMA fighters wrestlers kickboxers on and so forth
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What weight class do you compete?NAGA runs most of the tournaments in the US. They have gi, no gi, and age/skill level matches.
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Bible_Belt
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This was years ago, 160 or so.
YouTube best believe.
How much?
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I imagine many MMA gyms opened to cap on that.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.