I was out of town today running errands, and I made an observation. I look at women the way I look at houses. When I'm in a different city or on a different road, certain houses catch my eye. I think "Oh, that's a cool looking house", or "I like the architecture on that one", or "I like the atmosphere that one gives off". It struck me that those were very similar to thoughts I have when I see women out and about. They look cool, and I notice them. I'm not tearing myself up that I'm not living in them.
A few times lately I've tried not looking at women at all when I was out. I took the frame of having no interest. One girl came up and started talking to me while I was shopping. I just made a quick response to what she had said and walked off, never even looked at her. That experience convinced me that this idea was crazy. It puts me in a completely detached mode, whereas normally I would have engaged her a little more. And I don't need to be more detached, so thanks but no thanks.