BackInTheGame78
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I'd say as you get older that really doesn't move the needle too much anymore. It's kinda like whatever by that point, focus is elsewhere.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pedrito, a “dig” is good natured teasing. Es una burla pero sin animosidad.Not sure what a dig is in this context, english is not my first language. Im not attacking him in bad spirits or anything like that.
Just means she's emotionally connected to you, at that time.How amazing it is to have a beautiful woman with a great body lay at your side wrapped around you, skin to skin. Snuggling gf style, when they just melt into you and the smallest caress makes them quiver. That my friends is nirvana.
It just never gets old (even though I’m old) it’s just like nothing else.
Just means she's emotionally connected to you, at that time.
But yeah it's definitely a nice feeling. It's how a lot of unexperienced guys fall for a woman. Something like that can hit hard like a drug... if you've never experienced it before it could do damage.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your post reminded me of a very beautiful blonde I dated. All natural. 5'9", gorgeous long legs, great body, pretty face. She was Very difficult to get off.....But one cold and rainy Saturday afternoon while listening to the rain drops on the roof above her bed, it finally happened. I didn't know it then, but that was the peak of that relationship. One of the best times I ever had in bed with a woman. Total nirvana that day. And a woman with nice skin makes it even better.How amazing it is to have a beautiful woman with a great body lay at your side wrapped around you, skin to skin. Snuggling gf style, when they just melt into you and the smallest caress makes them quiver. That my friends is nirvana.
It just never gets old (even though I’m old) it’s just like nothing else.