BackInTheGame78
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I'd say as you get older that really doesn't move the needle too much anymore. It's kinda like whatever by that point, focus is elsewhere.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pedrito, a “dig” is good natured teasing. Es una burla pero sin animosidad.Not sure what a dig is in this context, english is not my first language. Im not attacking him in bad spirits or anything like that.
Just means she's emotionally connected to you, at that time.How amazing it is to have a beautiful woman with a great body lay at your side wrapped around you, skin to skin. Snuggling gf style, when they just melt into you and the smallest caress makes them quiver. That my friends is nirvana.
It just never gets old (even though I’m old) it’s just like nothing else.
Just means she's emotionally connected to you, at that time.
But yeah it's definitely a nice feeling. It's how a lot of unexperienced guys fall for a woman. Something like that can hit hard like a drug... if you've never experienced it before it could do damage.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your post reminded me of a very beautiful blonde I dated. All natural. 5'9", gorgeous long legs, great body, pretty face. She was Very difficult to get off.....But one cold and rainy Saturday afternoon while listening to the rain drops on the roof above her bed, it finally happened. I didn't know it then, but that was the peak of that relationship. One of the best times I ever had in bed with a woman. Total nirvana that day. And a woman with nice skin makes it even better.How amazing it is to have a beautiful woman with a great body lay at your side wrapped around you, skin to skin. Snuggling gf style, when they just melt into you and the smallest caress makes them quiver. That my friends is nirvana.
It just never gets old (even though I’m old) it’s just like nothing else.