"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I couldn't find a better example. But this is kinda how I have to carry ladders. Im dealing with a huge one kow thus I feel like I need more power to carry it.

Again that picture isn't the perfect example as he stands still ,but imagine holding the ladder with two arms while moving.

BITG, what would be the best exercise to carry this easier?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I couldn't find a better example. But this is kinda how I have to carry ladders. Im dealing with a huge one kow thus I feel like I need more power to carry it.

Again ta picture isn't the perfect example as e stands still , it imagine holding the ladder with two arms while moving.

BITG, what would be the best exercise to carry this easier?
Hmm...you mean kind of straight out in front of you with your arms extended?

The natural one that is almost the exact same movement pattern would be anterior raises where you either take a DB or cable and pull it straight out in front of you to shoulder height and then back down.

I also like woodchops and reverse woodchops for that, as it targets the front delts and core which would be heavily involved as well. Basically take a DB or cable and go across your body either starting at your waist and ending above the opposite shoulder or starting above your shoulder and ending at the opposite side by your waist. Brace your core while you are doing it as well.

Also other relative general strength movements like deadlifts would probably be helpful as well.
 

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Is the ladder fiberglass? Could it be replaced with an aluminum one?

Trying to muscle something awkward like that is just asking to hurt your back. When I was younger I tried to wrestle everything. Now it's more like jiu jitsu. Use leverage to minimize force.
 

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Is it just a few metres around a site? Just around the corner?
Get a dolly, pick up ladder, sit on dolly and adjust.
Remove dolly before use.
Something that huge could easily overbalance
Do not fk your back up
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is the ladder fiberglass? Could it be replaced with an aluminum one?

Trying to muscle something awkward like that is just asking to hurt your back. When I was younger I tried to wrestle everything. Now it's more like jiu jitsu. Use leverage to minimize force.
Nah my client bought the ladder because the work is up high like 12 meters. Its a nice and sturdy ladder , 3 stores of 14 steps iirc but heavy. Its aluminum.

I've just was taken aback by my lack of strength. This is a position that doesn't occur that often .

Nowadays I train to perform better doing my job. Recently had a job where I had to climb the jetty nonstop, and I was happy I'm in good shape . On my regular day job the old heads ALWAYS call me to help them lift heavy shyte lol.

When the money is right I will ofcourse work smarter...but now I have to use my body to get that bag...
 

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Is it just a few metres around a site? Just around the corner?
Get a dolly, pick up ladder, sit on dolly and adjust.
Remove dolly before use.
Unfortunately a dolly isn't possible. Or I'd say, its financially unattractive for my client as he needs to pay me a significant amount of money already...

Normally I'd go for what you're saying, but in this case I have to think out of the box. A long ladder is the easiest way to go.
 

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Unfortunately a dolly isn't possible. Or I'd say, its financially unattractive for my client as he needs to pay me a significant amount of money already...
I just mean a small ply platform, rubberised top for grip optional, and 4-5 rotational wheels underneath.
They are like $20 each from hardware store / Aldi/ Costco, hold more than 100kg.
You don't need the fancy ones, which take up too much space anyway.
Keep at least one in your truck /pickup bed.

Or use a skateboard, lol, if you have one around
 

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I just mean a small ply platform, rubberised top for grip optional, and 4-5 rotational wheels underneath.
They are like $20 each from hardware store / Aldi/ Costco, hold more than 100kg.
You don't need the fancy ones, which take up too much space anyway.
Keep at least one in your truck /pickup bed.

Or use a skateboard, lol, if you have one around
I will check it out!

Thanks for your advice
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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