You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LOL>....:kick:Aragon034 said:*smacks forehead*
I give up. You're ignored. Have a pleasant day.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
Good idea.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is a good idea. Recorders are fairly cheap, and most digital models these days have the ability to pull audio off them in MP3 format.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game. Go get an audio recorder from radio shack and sort it out. If you want to get better your gonna have to something different than what your doing now.
Sucks that that goes for every girl.ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
He kepts coming back cause he has nothing to do. Nothing acffects him, which can be a problem cause he doesnt learn or change. He knows hes a tool as much as we do.Jack Paradox said:I'd actually like to point out the fact that in spite of all the bashing Elstud receives, he keeps coming back and he keeps perservering. That is a quality is of a DJ. A very important one. But he's kinda missing a quality that's even more importantl; the ability to actually improve.
So while he's failing in the aspect of actually getting better, he's also not letting us affect him. So I say, props to Elstud for carrying on. But like seriously, take our advice man, our collective experience is a really helpful tool to any up and coming Don Juan. It can really help.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.