You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LOL>....:kick:Aragon034 said:*smacks forehead*
I give up. You're ignored. Have a pleasant day.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
Good idea.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is a good idea. Recorders are fairly cheap, and most digital models these days have the ability to pull audio off them in MP3 format.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game. Go get an audio recorder from radio shack and sort it out. If you want to get better your gonna have to something different than what your doing now.
Sucks that that goes for every girl.ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
He kepts coming back cause he has nothing to do. Nothing acffects him, which can be a problem cause he doesnt learn or change. He knows hes a tool as much as we do.Jack Paradox said:I'd actually like to point out the fact that in spite of all the bashing Elstud receives, he keeps coming back and he keeps perservering. That is a quality is of a DJ. A very important one. But he's kinda missing a quality that's even more importantl; the ability to actually improve.
So while he's failing in the aspect of actually getting better, he's also not letting us affect him. So I say, props to Elstud for carrying on. But like seriously, take our advice man, our collective experience is a really helpful tool to any up and coming Don Juan. It can really help.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.