When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LOL>....:kick:Aragon034 said:*smacks forehead*
I give up. You're ignored. Have a pleasant day.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
Good idea.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is a good idea. Recorders are fairly cheap, and most digital models these days have the ability to pull audio off them in MP3 format.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game. Go get an audio recorder from radio shack and sort it out. If you want to get better your gonna have to something different than what your doing now.
Sucks that that goes for every girl.ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
He kepts coming back cause he has nothing to do. Nothing acffects him, which can be a problem cause he doesnt learn or change. He knows hes a tool as much as we do.Jack Paradox said:I'd actually like to point out the fact that in spite of all the bashing Elstud receives, he keeps coming back and he keeps perservering. That is a quality is of a DJ. A very important one. But he's kinda missing a quality that's even more importantl; the ability to actually improve.
So while he's failing in the aspect of actually getting better, he's also not letting us affect him. So I say, props to Elstud for carrying on. But like seriously, take our advice man, our collective experience is a really helpful tool to any up and coming Don Juan. It can really help.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.