You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LOL>....:kick:Aragon034 said:*smacks forehead*
I give up. You're ignored. Have a pleasant day.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
Good idea.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is a good idea. Recorders are fairly cheap, and most digital models these days have the ability to pull audio off them in MP3 format.Warrior74 said:they probably say that to get you to go away. I would love it if you got an audio recorder and started recording your approaches. Then we could see what's going wrong in your game. Go get an audio recorder from radio shack and sort it out. If you want to get better your gonna have to something different than what your doing now.
Sucks that that goes for every girl.ElStud said:If she's a sophomore or older, she's probably already got a fiance or she's probably already married. Atleast around here I've found that to be true.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
He kepts coming back cause he has nothing to do. Nothing acffects him, which can be a problem cause he doesnt learn or change. He knows hes a tool as much as we do.Jack Paradox said:I'd actually like to point out the fact that in spite of all the bashing Elstud receives, he keeps coming back and he keeps perservering. That is a quality is of a DJ. A very important one. But he's kinda missing a quality that's even more importantl; the ability to actually improve.
So while he's failing in the aspect of actually getting better, he's also not letting us affect him. So I say, props to Elstud for carrying on. But like seriously, take our advice man, our collective experience is a really helpful tool to any up and coming Don Juan. It can really help.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.