"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
something different needed
- Thread starter penkitten
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Here is another link to my sister's web site that she's suggested.
http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/self-concept.html
She's very excited about possibly helping many here develop themselves.
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http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/self-concept.html
She's very excited about possibly helping many here develop themselves.
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penkitten
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nice find bible!!Bible_Belt said:
penkitten
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good deal romangod, tell her its a great site.romangod said:
drmeathead
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i havent looked at all the links but i think that a thread on BPD is warranted. 1 in 20 women have this. it can really **** a guy up if he gets involved with a female with this disorder.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I'm pretty much an expert on Cluster B Personality Disorders drmeathead.
If you Penny and others think I should write a giant thread on it I'll be happy to do so and then link it here.
Yes Sosuave has had many such threads on the pathological attention wh0re but never one that fully explains them like I can do.
Anyway for right now I'll contribute with one of joekerr's best threads and my personal favorite of his making the thread on what "breaks" mean in a relationship...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471&highlight=breaks
If you Penny and others think I should write a giant thread on it I'll be happy to do so and then link it here.
Yes Sosuave has had many such threads on the pathological attention wh0re but never one that fully explains them like I can do.
Anyway for right now I'll contribute with one of joekerr's best threads and my personal favorite of his making the thread on what "breaks" mean in a relationship...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471&highlight=breaks
penkitten
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if you want to write something due to the knowledge you have, that would be wonderful.KontrollerX said:
when we all get done adding in our ideas and whatnot here, i am hoping that we can take the info out of this thread and write something that can be placed in the bible area by the bootcamp and bible category stuff.
i dont know what this should be called when we are done, but it's for inner growth.
please contribute in any way you can
Señor Fingers
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Word to the Pen!
This post actually inspired me. I'm taking your theme and running with it if ya dont mind
This post actually inspired me. I'm taking your theme and running with it if ya dont mind
penkitten
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please do... and add a link to whatever thread you are making when it is done.Señor Fingers said:Word to the Pen!
This post actually inspired me. I'm taking your theme and running with it if ya dont mind
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
penkitten
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penkitten
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Rollo Tomassi
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Señor Fingers
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The Power of Priorities
Just posted this one. It actually sprung from the other post I mentioned previously.. kind of turned into its own beast. Stay tuned for more postage soon!
Just posted this one. It actually sprung from the other post I mentioned previously.. kind of turned into its own beast. Stay tuned for more postage soon!