"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
something different needed
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Here is another link to my sister's web site that she's suggested.
http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/self-concept.html
She's very excited about possibly helping many here develop themselves.
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http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/self-concept.html
She's very excited about possibly helping many here develop themselves.
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penkitten
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nice find bible!!Bible_Belt said:
penkitten
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good deal romangod, tell her its a great site.romangod said:
drmeathead
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i havent looked at all the links but i think that a thread on BPD is warranted. 1 in 20 women have this. it can really **** a guy up if he gets involved with a female with this disorder.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I'm pretty much an expert on Cluster B Personality Disorders drmeathead.
If you Penny and others think I should write a giant thread on it I'll be happy to do so and then link it here.
Yes Sosuave has had many such threads on the pathological attention wh0re but never one that fully explains them like I can do.
Anyway for right now I'll contribute with one of joekerr's best threads and my personal favorite of his making the thread on what "breaks" mean in a relationship...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471&highlight=breaks
If you Penny and others think I should write a giant thread on it I'll be happy to do so and then link it here.
Yes Sosuave has had many such threads on the pathological attention wh0re but never one that fully explains them like I can do.
Anyway for right now I'll contribute with one of joekerr's best threads and my personal favorite of his making the thread on what "breaks" mean in a relationship...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471&highlight=breaks
penkitten
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if you want to write something due to the knowledge you have, that would be wonderful.KontrollerX said:
when we all get done adding in our ideas and whatnot here, i am hoping that we can take the info out of this thread and write something that can be placed in the bible area by the bootcamp and bible category stuff.
i dont know what this should be called when we are done, but it's for inner growth.
please contribute in any way you can
Señor Fingers
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Word to the Pen!
This post actually inspired me. I'm taking your theme and running with it if ya dont mind
This post actually inspired me. I'm taking your theme and running with it if ya dont mind
penkitten
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please do... and add a link to whatever thread you are making when it is done.Señor Fingers said:Word to the Pen!
This post actually inspired me. I'm taking your theme and running with it if ya dont mind
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
penkitten
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penkitten
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Rollo Tomassi
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Señor Fingers
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The Power of Priorities
Just posted this one. It actually sprung from the other post I mentioned previously.. kind of turned into its own beast. Stay tuned for more postage soon!
Just posted this one. It actually sprung from the other post I mentioned previously.. kind of turned into its own beast. Stay tuned for more postage soon!