jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Have you ever wondered why there are some women who prefer and will stay in LTR or STR with men who are validation seekers and "ask/seek" validation especially from them?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Some men who seek validation get laid
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
Low self-esteem women.
As for the men who seek validation from sex, Rand said it well:
"The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . . "
Ayn Rand
As for the men who seek validation from sex, Rand said it well:
"The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . . "
Ayn Rand
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Everybody seeks validation. It's wired into our DNA from evolution.
The question is what kind of validation and from what sources?
Long-term financial success, or short-term conversational success?
Girls who like guys who need constant validation need consistent reminders that they are important to somebody.
The question is what kind of validation and from what sources?
Long-term financial success, or short-term conversational success?
Girls who like guys who need constant validation need consistent reminders that they are important to somebody.
jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
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Manure Spherian
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Nearly all men get some validation from women, including myself and all men on SS.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BaronOfHair
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No. Questions such as "Why does barely anyone remember Fillmore
Or/And
"Why did Albert Fish fry up Grace Budd's limbs with potatoes and onions, rather than rice and gravy?"
Are, by comparison, far more intriguing
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