jhonny9546
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Have you ever wondered why there are some women who prefer and will stay in LTR or STR with men who are validation seekers and "ask/seek" validation especially from them?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Some men who seek validation get laid
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
Low self-esteem women.
As for the men who seek validation from sex, Rand said it well:
"The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . . "
Ayn Rand
As for the men who seek validation from sex, Rand said it well:
"The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . . "
Ayn Rand
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Everybody seeks validation. It's wired into our DNA from evolution.
The question is what kind of validation and from what sources?
Long-term financial success, or short-term conversational success?
Girls who like guys who need constant validation need consistent reminders that they are important to somebody.
The question is what kind of validation and from what sources?
Long-term financial success, or short-term conversational success?
Girls who like guys who need constant validation need consistent reminders that they are important to somebody.
jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
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Manure Spherian
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Nearly all men get some validation from women, including myself and all men on SS.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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No. Questions such as "Why does barely anyone remember Fillmore
Or/And
"Why did Albert Fish fry up Grace Budd's limbs with potatoes and onions, rather than rice and gravy?"
Are, by comparison, far more intriguing
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