jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Have you ever wondered why there are some women who prefer and will stay in LTR or STR with men who are validation seekers and "ask/seek" validation especially from them?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Some men who seek validation get laid
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
Low self-esteem women.
As for the men who seek validation from sex, Rand said it well:
"The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . . "
Ayn Rand
As for the men who seek validation from sex, Rand said it well:
"The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . . "
Ayn Rand
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Everybody seeks validation. It's wired into our DNA from evolution.
The question is what kind of validation and from what sources?
Long-term financial success, or short-term conversational success?
Girls who like guys who need constant validation need consistent reminders that they are important to somebody.
The question is what kind of validation and from what sources?
Long-term financial success, or short-term conversational success?
Girls who like guys who need constant validation need consistent reminders that they are important to somebody.
jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
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Manure Spherian
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Nearly all men get some validation from women, including myself and all men on SS.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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No. Questions such as "Why does barely anyone remember Fillmore
Or/And
"Why did Albert Fish fry up Grace Budd's limbs with potatoes and onions, rather than rice and gravy?"
Are, by comparison, far more intriguing
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