Ringleader41
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I want her, but I'm a novice. Give me some pointers or some examples yall have did to approach girls at their jobs.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So this worker at an ice cream parlour caught my eye
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ringleader41
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Picking up at a place of work is not my speciality, except for number closing the dry cleaner girl :rock:. But I'll try to give you some information.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
Ringleader41
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TheAsianLoverReturns
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if she's into you, she'll ask you out.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Ringleader41
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well yall have any approaching methods
RingLeader41: Hey girl, wassup?
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.