Ringleader41
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I want her, but I'm a novice. Give me some pointers or some examples yall have did to approach girls at their jobs.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So this worker at an ice cream parlour caught my eye
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ringleader41
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Picking up at a place of work is not my speciality, except for number closing the dry cleaner girl :rock:. But I'll try to give you some information.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
Ringleader41
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TheAsianLoverReturns
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if she's into you, she'll ask you out.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ringleader41
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well yall have any approaching methods
RingLeader41: Hey girl, wassup?
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.