Ringleader41
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I want her, but I'm a novice. Give me some pointers or some examples yall have did to approach girls at their jobs.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So this worker at an ice cream parlour caught my eye
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ringleader41
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Picking up at a place of work is not my speciality, except for number closing the dry cleaner girl :rock:. But I'll try to give you some information.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
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if she's into you, she'll ask you out.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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well yall have any approaching methods
RingLeader41: Hey girl, wassup?
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.