Ringleader41
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I want her, but I'm a novice. Give me some pointers or some examples yall have did to approach girls at their jobs.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
So this worker at an ice cream parlour caught my eye
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ringleader41
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Picking up at a place of work is not my speciality, except for number closing the dry cleaner girl :rock:. But I'll try to give you some information.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
First, commercial establishments such as restaurants, bars, grocery stores, ice cream places, etc., are very, shall we say, "incestuous." In other words, it is possible that she is already hooking up with some other dude that works there. I'm not trying to discourage you in the least. I think you still should go for it.
That caveat aside, you need to chat with her a bit. (What you say isn't that critical.) See how the conversation goes. If it goes pretty well, try to get her number. Maybe say something like, "I'd like to give you a call sometime." Then get the digits.
Now there are two schools of thought here:
1. Be bold and just ask for the number regardless of who is around.
2. Use discretion and try to get the number when there aren't five people nearby and listening.
I lean towards #2. I think it would be embarrasing for the chick to picked up in front of her boss/manager. Also, she might be reluctant to give you the number in front of a dude she's hooking up with or a female coworker that knows she's sort of "taken."
On the hand, don't procrastinate and make ten trips there trying to find the perfect opportunity either. That will creep her out. Use your best judgement and go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll give you the "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm sorta seeing someone" thing. Best case scenario, you have a number to work with.
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TheAsianLoverReturns
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if she's into you, she'll ask you out.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
happened to me at the library and chipotle.
other than that, leave her alone and let her do her job. there are many, many other places to find women: online, clubs, bars, etc.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ringleader41
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well yall have any approaching methods
RingLeader41: Hey girl, wassup?
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.
IceCream Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
RingerLeader41: I'm good thx. What's your name?
IceCream Girl: I'm blah blah. What's yours?
RingLeader41: I'm ringleader...
IcrCream Girl: So do you live around here blah blah..
RingLeader41: Ye I do, it's boring here though. Oh ye, mind if I ask you a question?
IceCream Girl: Sure, go ahead.
RingLeader41: So.. do you like VANILLA or CHOCOLATE?
*wink wink at her*
you're on your own from there boy.