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I was having a laugh you wally.Purefilth said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
So much hate for women on this site :(
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Has anybody noticed that whenever a woman starts a post on SS it causes us to start bickering and turning against each other? I think that is worthy of note.
Aristippus
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What I've noticed is that it doesn't matter which woman starts a topic. No matter how stupid she is or how little value or insight she has, too many guys on here are chomping at the bit to get her attention. The pattern, and I don't know why this is the pattern, but it's always some self-centered broad that tries to appear intelligent that starts a topic (when a female chooses to).Atom Smasher said:
She usually tries to put on a front of being intelligent and at some point she even has to say "Look at me! I'm intelligent!". Suuuuure you are, Einstein.
*Note: Einstein never had to say "Look at me! I'm so smart!". People KNEW he was smart. His intelligence spoke for itself. Anyone who has to tell you "Look how smart I am!", probably isn't very intelligent.
At some point the woman who chooses to start a topic here goes on a tangent about how she's different than the other women and she can't understand why she's being pumped and dumped. Meanwhile, at points during her commentary, there are hints that she's just a woman who is a pain in the a$$ and has entitlement issues. These are the ones that attract the men that are simply looking for a roll in the hay and nothing else. When a man who's looking for a relationship runs into one of these women, sooner or later, her lack of brains and entitlement issues scare him away. But for some reason there are always a few guys on here who don't see through it and to top it off, they even try to play nice and tell her how they're not like the other men.
Others try to have intelligent discussion with an unintelligent person. Gentleman, it's like discussing philosophy with a chimpanzee. Like I said, there are some women you can have a decent conversation with that have some ability to reason and some intelligence.
For some reason, that's not the female demographic that chooses to start a topic here on the rare occasion that a woman actually DOES decide to start or enter a discussion.
I have yet to see anything of value come out of DJGirl's mouth or any other woman that chooses to enter discussion here. Why that particular segment of the female population chooses to peek its head in here every so often is a mystery to me! If an intelligent woman actually chose to enter a discussion here, trust me, she wouldn't have to tell everyone how intelligent she is.
Daily Insanity
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Guys what the hell are you all still doing populating this thread?? Move on, get out there in the field, stop wasting your time debating this old issue, we'll always blame someone else and not ourselves. End of story
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think we should all just agree that men and women think different and will probably never understand each other. Some of you guys think that your gender is untouchable but in reality it has just as many cracks as my gender.
I also never claimed to be better then other girls, i have faults and have made mistakes too but hey im sure you guys have aswell. i dont like to see all the woman bashing on here but i should get used to it since its coming from bitter rejected men most of the time. However some context in this forum can apply to me and my "game" for scoring chicks but anyways
I also never claimed to be better then other girls, i have faults and have made mistakes too but hey im sure you guys have aswell. i dont like to see all the woman bashing on here but i should get used to it since its coming from bitter rejected men most of the time. However some context in this forum can apply to me and my "game" for scoring chicks but anyways
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
For the love of God, if any of you engage her on this one I'll personally ban you LOL!
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djgirl,
I read through all your post and you are right. I'll start applying what I learned in this thread toward my interactions with women. Many thanks.
I read through all your post and you are right. I'll start applying what I learned in this thread toward my interactions with women. Many thanks.
wait_out
Master Don Juan
Pretty much. Understand it, and stop internalizing it.djgirl said:
It is fun cruising girls with another girl, but you're sensitive and have a bit of victim mentality which will mess up your game. You're also trying to either validate yourself in this thread or are intentionally looking to get flamed. Both are signs of compulsion, not clear intentional decisions. What are you trying to prove, and to whom?
If you are getting blown out by girls/used by guys on a regular basis, other people aren't the problem. I suggest you stop stirring the pot here and focus on yourself, that is the only way to make progress.
You can also poke around on reddit for advice as a bi girl. If you are thin-skinned, it will be better for you in the long run.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You mean "one fewer crack -- it makes all the difference in the world" or something to that effect? Naaw! That one's just too easy.Atom Smasher said:For the love of God, if any of you engage her on this one I'll personally ban you LOL!
Almost forgot: perseverence, thanks for the rep! I appreciate that you took the high road even though I poked fun at your post -- to make a point for men trying to overcome frustrations they never bargained for.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Translation: "Nothing to see here, don't bother trying to understand the intergender dynamics of women, even attempting critical analysis makes you a bitter, misogynistic, sexless loser, just be thankful any HB4 would graciously spread her legs for you, you don't know how lucky you men are to "run the world."djgirl said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Djgirl, read Desdinova's post on feminism causing women to be less feminine. Then read it again.
And if you think Julia Gillard is doing a good job running this country, you seriously need to pull your head out of your arse and get educated.
Most political observers of any note and credibility agree that she is the worst prime minister we have had.
As for all women in management positions, I really don't like the fact that my career - and my country - is in the hands of someone who has the propensity to completely lose touch with reality once every 28 days.
And if you think Julia Gillard is doing a good job running this country, you seriously need to pull your head out of your arse and get educated.
Most political observers of any note and credibility agree that she is the worst prime minister we have had.
As for all women in management positions, I really don't like the fact that my career - and my country - is in the hands of someone who has the propensity to completely lose touch with reality once every 28 days.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
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:crackup: :crackup:BeginningDJ said:
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
perseverance said:I was having a laugh you wally.
wally? now you've gone and hurt my feeling, and it was the last one I had left too
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I highly doubt Jesus would spoken like that, for the English language didn't exist when Jesus roamed the Earth.Kbomb said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.