Ringleader41
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I never thought I was ugly. I know I look better than most people I see with girls.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
so I've just realized I was ugly
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ringleader41
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I don't know. I never thought I was ugly. This is a huge kick in the face right now. I didn't know people were lying to me.
HappyHarryHardon
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ugly guys have to work harder to get action. game up son!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
donnyjondeppjuando
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PappyS said:
So its better to be a tough macho ugly ass mofo than a cute pretty boy?
Cause cute pretty boy gotta watch his ass even if girls are easier to get?
Tough ugly guy still gets ***** and his ass is safe?
lol
nismo-4
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So? Do something about it! Get rich, work out, join a rock band, get famous, get plastic surgery to look handsome, sh*t give women a reason to be with you.
Case closed.
Case closed.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
I am not buying it. If you were indeed ugly you would have known that already unless something happened to kill your looks altogether. Walk up to a random woman, decent looking, and ask her for something or offer her something, or go for the number, her reaction will let you know how ugly you are. Thenn ask an average looking friend to do the same. You will see the difference. Just make sure you are both equally confident and use the same material. If you are ugly - you are creepy! I bet you are not.Ringleader41 said:
Ringleader41
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People are friendly to me even if I am black. Cashiers try to chat me up and I get a lot of small talk from people when I'm out.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
You ain't ugly than. Only 8, 9, and 10 are attractive. The body and height plays a crucial role in that too.
Ringleader41
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than why can't I get a girl my friend jsut said I was a 7 to 8
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PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Low social value. Under 25 it is all about the looks. Gotta make up for it else where. Got confidence? Got swag? What's your age? Younger dudes are all in the same boat, at least I was till recently.
irocknike23
Senior Don Juan
just what i tell every dude who comes in here and cries that he is ugly
work out.
girls cant resist muscles.
and now its summer its the only time of the year you can have your shirt off and no one can say your doing it to show off
work out.
girls cant resist muscles.
and now its summer its the only time of the year you can have your shirt off and no one can say your doing it to show off
Yah, I didn't know I was short until I was 30. Apparently 5'8 is short? But the funny thing is, every girl who mentioned that I was short was a. taller than me and b. told me that I act like guys who are taller.
What does that mean? It means that I have confidence.
I remember I was dating this 22 year old when I was 33 and I overheard her roommates say this.
Girl A - "Why are ugly dudes always so ****y?" this about the guy she was seeing who hit it and didn't call her back. "He is ugly, but he's got a great body, I don't even care that he's butters."
Confidence, don't be a fat slob, you'll still pull something. Just be a little more outgoing. You probably aren't hideous, just not some beautiful beefcake. Most guys aren't you know.
What does that mean? It means that I have confidence.
I remember I was dating this 22 year old when I was 33 and I overheard her roommates say this.
Girl A - "Why are ugly dudes always so ****y?" this about the guy she was seeing who hit it and didn't call her back. "He is ugly, but he's got a great body, I don't even care that he's butters."
Confidence, don't be a fat slob, you'll still pull something. Just be a little more outgoing. You probably aren't hideous, just not some beautiful beefcake. Most guys aren't you know.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
With this in mind at 24 I am glad I went through late teens to early twenties without really being on the dating scene. I have had no self-respect or self-esteem for years (or any actual belief in my self) and for good reason because dating is particularly tough and some days I absolutely hated being a man. The young impressionable mind is brain-washed by watching more TV than getting any glimpses of reality, male and female. At least a few years down the line it won't matter the older you get.PapiChulo said: