Ringleader41
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I never thought I was ugly. I know I look better than most people I see with girls.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
so I've just realized I was ugly
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ringleader41
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I don't know. I never thought I was ugly. This is a huge kick in the face right now. I didn't know people were lying to me.
HappyHarryHardon
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ugly guys have to work harder to get action. game up son!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
donnyjondeppjuando
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PappyS said:
So its better to be a tough macho ugly ass mofo than a cute pretty boy?
Cause cute pretty boy gotta watch his ass even if girls are easier to get?
Tough ugly guy still gets ***** and his ass is safe?
lol
nismo-4
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So? Do something about it! Get rich, work out, join a rock band, get famous, get plastic surgery to look handsome, sh*t give women a reason to be with you.
Case closed.
Case closed.
PapiChulo
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I am not buying it. If you were indeed ugly you would have known that already unless something happened to kill your looks altogether. Walk up to a random woman, decent looking, and ask her for something or offer her something, or go for the number, her reaction will let you know how ugly you are. Thenn ask an average looking friend to do the same. You will see the difference. Just make sure you are both equally confident and use the same material. If you are ugly - you are creepy! I bet you are not.Ringleader41 said:
Ringleader41
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People are friendly to me even if I am black. Cashiers try to chat me up and I get a lot of small talk from people when I'm out.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PapiChulo
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You ain't ugly than. Only 8, 9, and 10 are attractive. The body and height plays a crucial role in that too.
Ringleader41
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than why can't I get a girl my friend jsut said I was a 7 to 8
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PapiChulo
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Low social value. Under 25 it is all about the looks. Gotta make up for it else where. Got confidence? Got swag? What's your age? Younger dudes are all in the same boat, at least I was till recently.
irocknike23
Senior Don Juan
just what i tell every dude who comes in here and cries that he is ugly
work out.
girls cant resist muscles.
and now its summer its the only time of the year you can have your shirt off and no one can say your doing it to show off
work out.
girls cant resist muscles.
and now its summer its the only time of the year you can have your shirt off and no one can say your doing it to show off
Yah, I didn't know I was short until I was 30. Apparently 5'8 is short? But the funny thing is, every girl who mentioned that I was short was a. taller than me and b. told me that I act like guys who are taller.
What does that mean? It means that I have confidence.
I remember I was dating this 22 year old when I was 33 and I overheard her roommates say this.
Girl A - "Why are ugly dudes always so ****y?" this about the guy she was seeing who hit it and didn't call her back. "He is ugly, but he's got a great body, I don't even care that he's butters."
Confidence, don't be a fat slob, you'll still pull something. Just be a little more outgoing. You probably aren't hideous, just not some beautiful beefcake. Most guys aren't you know.
What does that mean? It means that I have confidence.
I remember I was dating this 22 year old when I was 33 and I overheard her roommates say this.
Girl A - "Why are ugly dudes always so ****y?" this about the guy she was seeing who hit it and didn't call her back. "He is ugly, but he's got a great body, I don't even care that he's butters."
Confidence, don't be a fat slob, you'll still pull something. Just be a little more outgoing. You probably aren't hideous, just not some beautiful beefcake. Most guys aren't you know.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
With this in mind at 24 I am glad I went through late teens to early twenties without really being on the dating scene. I have had no self-respect or self-esteem for years (or any actual belief in my self) and for good reason because dating is particularly tough and some days I absolutely hated being a man. The young impressionable mind is brain-washed by watching more TV than getting any glimpses of reality, male and female. At least a few years down the line it won't matter the older you get.PapiChulo said: