Ringleader41
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I never thought I was ugly. I know I look better than most people I see with girls.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
so I've just realized I was ugly
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ringleader41
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I don't know. I never thought I was ugly. This is a huge kick in the face right now. I didn't know people were lying to me.
HappyHarryHardon
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ugly guys have to work harder to get action. game up son!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
donnyjondeppjuando
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PappyS said:
So its better to be a tough macho ugly ass mofo than a cute pretty boy?
Cause cute pretty boy gotta watch his ass even if girls are easier to get?
Tough ugly guy still gets ***** and his ass is safe?
lol
nismo-4
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So? Do something about it! Get rich, work out, join a rock band, get famous, get plastic surgery to look handsome, sh*t give women a reason to be with you.
Case closed.
Case closed.
PapiChulo
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I am not buying it. If you were indeed ugly you would have known that already unless something happened to kill your looks altogether. Walk up to a random woman, decent looking, and ask her for something or offer her something, or go for the number, her reaction will let you know how ugly you are. Thenn ask an average looking friend to do the same. You will see the difference. Just make sure you are both equally confident and use the same material. If you are ugly - you are creepy! I bet you are not.Ringleader41 said:
Ringleader41
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People are friendly to me even if I am black. Cashiers try to chat me up and I get a lot of small talk from people when I'm out.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PapiChulo
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You ain't ugly than. Only 8, 9, and 10 are attractive. The body and height plays a crucial role in that too.
Ringleader41
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than why can't I get a girl my friend jsut said I was a 7 to 8
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PapiChulo
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Low social value. Under 25 it is all about the looks. Gotta make up for it else where. Got confidence? Got swag? What's your age? Younger dudes are all in the same boat, at least I was till recently.
irocknike23
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just what i tell every dude who comes in here and cries that he is ugly
work out.
girls cant resist muscles.
and now its summer its the only time of the year you can have your shirt off and no one can say your doing it to show off
work out.
girls cant resist muscles.
and now its summer its the only time of the year you can have your shirt off and no one can say your doing it to show off
Yah, I didn't know I was short until I was 30. Apparently 5'8 is short? But the funny thing is, every girl who mentioned that I was short was a. taller than me and b. told me that I act like guys who are taller.
What does that mean? It means that I have confidence.
I remember I was dating this 22 year old when I was 33 and I overheard her roommates say this.
Girl A - "Why are ugly dudes always so ****y?" this about the guy she was seeing who hit it and didn't call her back. "He is ugly, but he's got a great body, I don't even care that he's butters."
Confidence, don't be a fat slob, you'll still pull something. Just be a little more outgoing. You probably aren't hideous, just not some beautiful beefcake. Most guys aren't you know.
What does that mean? It means that I have confidence.
I remember I was dating this 22 year old when I was 33 and I overheard her roommates say this.
Girl A - "Why are ugly dudes always so ****y?" this about the guy she was seeing who hit it and didn't call her back. "He is ugly, but he's got a great body, I don't even care that he's butters."
Confidence, don't be a fat slob, you'll still pull something. Just be a little more outgoing. You probably aren't hideous, just not some beautiful beefcake. Most guys aren't you know.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
With this in mind at 24 I am glad I went through late teens to early twenties without really being on the dating scene. I have had no self-respect or self-esteem for years (or any actual belief in my self) and for good reason because dating is particularly tough and some days I absolutely hated being a man. The young impressionable mind is brain-washed by watching more TV than getting any glimpses of reality, male and female. At least a few years down the line it won't matter the older you get.PapiChulo said: