Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So I've been dating a lesbian...

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Alright, so I have a male friend who introduced me to a female about four weeks ago, start of college semester. I'm in the my third year, she's entering her first. She "my type" (listens to my music, ect), and if it wasn't for my recent reading of the pook manual and this site, I'd idolize her.
Me and her have been "hanging out" (dinner, shopping) and I find out from my male friend this weekend that she has come out to only him that she thinks she is lesbian.
Now I see two issues, one, I have to convince her not to go the lez route (she's been in relationships with feminite/emo/***** men, and that's NOT me, I'm what she wanted/wants) even though she hasn't told me she's a lez yet.

Two, I have to make sure if I'm starting to enter the friend zone that I pull my balls back out of it. Is there a manual on that somewhere? I've already started to not respond to her texts quickly and pull back my time from her, becoming randomly unavailable.

Thanks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PectoralisMajor said:
OR 3) you work your magic and get her to become a bi-sexual.

niiiiiiiiceeeeee :rock:

+1 for the best solution
 

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convince her she's not a lesbian? dude, go out and find an AVAILABLE HETERO chick and quit wasting your time trying to convert her, trying to "save" her like you are some white Knight on a horse. You went "shopping" with her? Read up on plate spinning. But seriously, if you are serious about this you need to go back to the bible.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Three things:

1 : She in not lesbian exactly. She's "at a turning point". She's been with enough femanine guys that she is fed up. And this seems like a choice to her.

2 : I don't want her bi.

3 : I do need to reread the DJ bible, as I didn't focus and skipped around. Thanks guys.

More input?
 

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I don't understand,I mean,what is it that you want from this girl?
 

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I've dated a girl who was "bi" for the sake of being hotter to guys, i got annoyed with that **** quick. But from what shes told me girls shes ****ed werent all that fun. So i'm sure you have a chance.
 

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Women are for the most are bisexual in nature. Don't ask me why, they just are. So yeah, she might like chicks.

Just to throw it out there, have you had sex with her? If you have, and she enjoyed it:

A) She is not that much of a lesbian and she told your friend that, because she thought he was trying to sleep with her.

B) Your friend is feeding you BS because he wants to sleep with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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