"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So is it time to delete hbs # from phone
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Agreed. Just this last weekend I had a date with a chick who flaked on me two months earlier and whom I had left on the backburner since. If I had deleted her I wouldn't have had such a fun afternoon with her and apparently I did well enough that a couple days later she started initiating contact instead. Just because she's not beating down your door right now doesn't mean that she won't in the future.Espi said:I never delete numbers.
Go cold on her until next friday. Not this friday but the following friday. Send a brief text letting her know that you'll be at ____ saturday night at ___ pm. Wanna join me for a drink?
If no response, keep the number and co cold for several weeks then send out another text along with any other women who have flaked in the past ("group text"). "Plans tonight?" Is all you need text. Occasionally you'll get 1 or 2 women that will respond.
I don't delete a number unless the chick has done something really disrespectful and I never wish to speak to her again. That happens pretty damn rarely.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.