"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So is it time to delete hbs # from phone
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Agreed. Just this last weekend I had a date with a chick who flaked on me two months earlier and whom I had left on the backburner since. If I had deleted her I wouldn't have had such a fun afternoon with her and apparently I did well enough that a couple days later she started initiating contact instead. Just because she's not beating down your door right now doesn't mean that she won't in the future.Espi said:I never delete numbers.
Go cold on her until next friday. Not this friday but the following friday. Send a brief text letting her know that you'll be at ____ saturday night at ___ pm. Wanna join me for a drink?
If no response, keep the number and co cold for several weeks then send out another text along with any other women who have flaked in the past ("group text"). "Plans tonight?" Is all you need text. Occasionally you'll get 1 or 2 women that will respond.
I don't delete a number unless the chick has done something really disrespectful and I never wish to speak to her again. That happens pretty damn rarely.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.