"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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so I met a gril at a club and exchanged emails

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met her at a club

on the way out

found out she lives around my area

I did a goodbye approach

she had to go , so we exchanged emails
(she brought up the email thing, then asked me for my email address)

and gave me her email

she wrote me

this:

"I would reeeeealy like to talk to you more... but I no longer want to reply on emails anymore because I had a bad experience with weirdo/psycho in the past. Hope you understand!! :p"
..my question is...is it time to exchange numbers?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hmm doesn't seem too good. Try to get her phone number but it may be too late.

Here is an idea for next time from David D. When you tell a girl to give you her email, as she is writing that down, tell her to also write her phone number.
 
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Maxtro said:
hmm doesn't seem too good. Try to get her phone number but it may be too late.

Here is an idea for next time from David D. When you tell a girl to give you her email, as she is writing that down, tell her to also right her phone number.
yeah I wanted to go for the cell phone , but she just said give me your email , and as soon as I was going for the 2nd contact she said hey I go to my gf's are waiting for me
but stay in touch with me
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Argh you quoted my typo now I can't edit it :(

Seems like there was not much you could have done.
 
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Maxtro said:
Argh you quoted my typo now I can't edit it :(

Seems like there was not much you could have done.
yeah I should have been more aggressive towards the beginning, but I went to the club with no intentions of picking up girls, I just went to have a drink with a friend that I had not seen in months.

ssry about me quoting your typo my bad :whistle:
 
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