"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So I bought the home gym. What workout regime to use?

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'll go dig the exercise chart out when I get a chance and post it. How many sets should I start off when using it? Also should I use the min weight amount when I start off so I don't strain a muscle?
 

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I'll go dig the exercise chart out when I get a chance and post it. How many sets should I start off when using it? Also should I use the min weight amount when I start off so I don't strain a muscle?
So this dude is coming Monday, then your machine is ready to go?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Also don't do cardio everyday if you want to build muscle. It's important but everyday will be overkill.
 

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Yes. Work on proper form and motions before you add heavy weights. You can even practice with no weights at all and just go through the motions. Check out YouTube for videos or google articles on proper form for each exercise. Have someone else watch you if you can for input. Or do it in front of a mirror. Or better still, video yourself and post here for member input.

Slowly add just a little bit of weight once you feel you have the proper form down. 2-5 pounds. Not much. Try to maintain proper form as you continue to slowly add weight.

Youll see that as the weight increases, it will be easier to lose that proper form. You will not be working the right muscles the exercise was designed for if your form is off. This is what leads to injury. You’ll end up using much weaker muscles to compensate for the heavier weight; muscles that aren’t strong enough to handle such a load.

When you start to experience soreness in your muscles, pay close attention to where the soreness is in the muscle. Poke with your finger to get precise locations. If your form is good, you should experience that initial soreness in generally the same places on both arms, both legs, both sides of the chest, etc. If you’re really sore on one side and not the other, recheck your form. It’s likely one muscle is working harder than the other because the weight is not properly balanced.
Yeah I've made sure to work on that too. I've noticed that when I'm doing heavy squats I have a tendency to lean towards the right. No idea why that is. Is it just because I'm right handed maybe?
 

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Yeah I've made sure to work on that too. I've noticed that when I'm doing heavy squats I have a tendency to lean towards the right. No idea why that is. Is it just because I'm right handed maybe?
Don’t worry about it. Your body will recalibrate that imbalance over time, or you’ll just fail the rep.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes it will, by developing stronger muscles on one side vs. the other, which may be the reason he’s in this situation to begin with.

This recalibration might fix the imbalance, but it will always keep him at a higher chance for injury on every rep if the weight shifts to the weaker side for any reason.

This is all assuming the problem is a development imbalance to begin with. If the real issue is improper form, the problem will more likely get worse by ignoring it and the risk of injury will continue to increase.

But to each their own. I’d rather make a temporary 5/10 pound adjustment, or do a few extra iso exercises for a few weeks, rather than lose 3-6 months of lifting due to an injury.
actually I wouldn't consider his body recalibrate the imbalance on his own, the right thing to do would be he do work on said weaker muscle, chances are his imbalance, is not only being one member stronger then other, but something he do, he naturally had his balance shifted, be by injury or by bad posture.

like you mention, he will keep forcing one side more and it can give him a injury, the right thing would be he keep training and be alwyas on the look to keep his balance in check, by alwyas do the right movement and using both members in the same way, strenght, and velocity, even if that means taking it a little easier and slower to fix his posture.

for the op its end of the month and he didn't even started.... well better then getting a injury.

and I will say again, he should go to a gym, he is too green, and a possible gain of a social circle would be far more benefical to him then this home gym he bought, but since he likes to ignore anything who don't agree with him
 

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Yes it will, by developing stronger muscles on one side vs. the other, which may be the reason he’s in this situation to begin with.

This recalibration might fix the imbalance, but it will always keep him at a higher chance for injury on every rep if the weight shifts to the weaker side for any reason.

This is all assuming the problem is a development imbalance to begin with. If the real issue is improper form, the problem will more likely get worse by ignoring it and the risk of injury will continue to increase.

But to each their own. I’d rather make a temporary 5/10 pound adjustment, or do a few extra iso exercises for a few weeks, rather than lose 3-6 months of lifting due to an injury.
Nah, the beauty of barbells is you can only lift what your weakest muscles allow. If he has a form issue, that’s where the correction should be made. Isolating one muscle on one side won’t make his squat better; reducing the load until the rep is perfect will.

My left hip flexor is to this day weaker than the right due to a hamstring injury 14 years ago It’s imperceptible while lifting, but I’ll notice more soreness and tightness on that side. My form is still perfect. Your body is a system and will utilize other muscles to compensate. You won’t outsmart it! (No one has perfect muscular symmetry)
 

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But you’ve been forced to compensate for 14 years due to an injury to begin with.

I’m just trying to help a guy avoid that.
The point is, imbalances are inevitable. Barbell training by nature allows your body to compensate for it. My injury was from varsity soccer; not weightlifting. No amount of isolation work will correct that. As such, my body has still found a way to lift heavy squats, and it hasn’t caused future injury.
 

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Interesting. I don't lean to the right but I feel like I have to move my right foot forward a tad. I think my right leg might be an imperceptible bit longer than my left. So I'm constantly shifting pre-lift. But then maybe I'm just OCD because I'm constantly fussing with every little angle before I get into the lift, I guess to avoid injury and to have a great lift. I also tend to point my feet outward to distribute weight inward if that makes sense.

Actually I just wanted to post on this thread because the biggoal/exercise equipment storyline is currently the funniest saga on Sosuave. Is he still waiting for a guy to assemble it? Lol. Think of the exercise and know-how he would get if he put it together himself. This dude can't be for real, he's like Sosuave's answer to Prince Albert.
I'm doing 5 miles of tread mill tonight. In ordering the exercise bike soon too along with my home gym system it will be like having my own gym. In 6 months I expect to put ab pics on old.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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