"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Slump Busting

ThinWhiteDuke

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A few years back MLB player Mark Grace did an interview on the Ji Rome radio show and launched into his description of a sexual slump buster. In a nutshell he said the way to bust a slump is to find the fattest, narliest ho in the bar and lay the wood to her.

I'd personally rather remain 'hitless' then to use this approach.

What do you use to bust out?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ricky

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Yes it is better to remain hitless.

You know why? You might get her pregnant.
 

allan976

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Depends on the cause of the slump

"What do you use to bust out?"

---Damm good question. I'm still trying to answer that one. As long as I have the proper energy, I just move on to the next number close or next approach.

What gets really difficult is when you don't want to approach. One thing that could be going on is that the rest of your life is getting so crazy and demanding that you'd be better off dealing with these issues first, strictly for the sake of self preservation. If you're gaming so much that you're slacking off on work for example, you're in trouble. Better get back to work, son.

If work (and family matters and so on) is fine, and you have plenty of energy, time to evaluate your inner state. What are your self limiting beliefs? Some people can work through this on their own, in the form of a journal, or by talking to friends, or by doing a workshop. For others, personal therapy is required or beneficial.

A third possibility is that there is a serious problem with your game, strategy wise. Here, you might be better off recruiting a wing to get a second opinion. Ask for frank, but constructive advice on how you open, how you vibe, how you close, your body language, clothing, everything. A good wing can be invaluable. But a weak wing can bust your sets into oblivion.
 

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What gets me in a slump from time to time is dry spells with no intimancy, not a lack of numbers or dates. I like being single. My cure for that feeling is a local oriental massage provider. She's a hot thai. Full body massage, slow buildup to an intense mind blowing happy ending. It's not about "dyck in pu$$y" but a sensual experience. The next few days I feel like I can knock down brick buildings. Yeah I pay $120, but it's a hellavua lot better than the above advice, banging a fat skank from a bar. Slump buster - give me a break!!! That would have me feeling depressed as hell!!
 

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Why would Mark Grace have to do that?

He must have had negative game with his money, fame, and as I remember, pretty good looks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ThinWhiteDuke

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A pro baseball player who wasn't easily recognized (Grace was never a huge name in the sport) could slip into a sex slump during the off-season winter months.
 
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