She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Do dogcraps towel stretches.. they are awesome for the deltoid. Deads are comming up, lower weight but higher rep than last time. Ever thought of switching to pull-ups? I did it a while ago and they give more lat workout IMO when done strict than chins done strict.Originally posted by gav
tried a chest day yesterday but my shoulder completely fvcked me over. it's sore on the front of my shoulder just as it attaches to the bicep, so i can't work out my biceps or chest
trying to sort it by doing db lateral raises everyday, which makes it feel a lot better. any other advice lads?
back and triceps
deads
100kg * 6
110kg * 8
115kg * 8
115kg * 7
wide grip chin ups
bw *
10
7
5
4
4sets tricep pushdowns 64kg * 6
3 sets bent over tricep extensions 59kg *6
2 sets db overhead onearm exts 10kg * 5
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Man I know exactly how u feel. I must have been going throuth the motions for the last 3 months. Partly because of injuries partly cause i lost motivation. Maybe you should take a week of review your goals and compeletly change your work out. thats what im going to do right now. It's no fun if your not challenging yourself. hope your shoulder gets better man.Originally posted by gav
it's really starting to affect me personally; i'm not taking the gym so seriously anymore and i can feel the lack of testosterone. feels like i'm reverting to afcdom again.
Cool man, keep doing them and your shoulder will probably heal out. =)Originally posted by gav
legs yesterday
weight: 67-68kg
smith squats (attg)
60kg * 6
80kg * 4
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90kg * 4
90kg * 4
90kg * 4
90kg * 4
leg exts (machine)
90kg * 8
90kg * 8
stiff leg deads
3 sets, 80kg * 6
calve raises
4 sets, 65kg * 8
i've started doing those towel things lifeforce; they're working pretty well straight after doing them, but my shoulder's still pretty fvcked.
would you recommend me doing deadlifts or pullups tomorrow if it's still sore? the injury doesn't affect my performance on the deads, but it's a little sore on the pullups.
it's really starting to affect me personally; i'm not taking the gym so seriously anymore and i can feel the lack of testosterone. feels like i'm reverting to afcdom again.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.